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What is Oral Sex?

moderator — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 05:54:36 +0000

Oral sex pertains to a range of sexual activities that involve your mouth, lips, tongue, throat and even teeth to sexually stimulate your partner’s sex organs. Oral sex goes by many fancy names: it’s cunnilingus when it’s oral sex done on females; fellatio when its oral sex done on males; and analingus when it’s oral sex performed on a man or woman’s anus.
Cunnilingus is derived from the Latin words cunnus and lingua, which mean vulva and tongue, respectively. Fellatio, on the other hand, comes from the Latin word fell?re, which means to suck.
Oral sex is usually viewed as an essential part of foreplay but it’s of course also a way to bring your sex partner to a wonderful climax.
As we have covered cunnilingus already a couple of months back, it’s time for the boys to get their turn don’t you think? For this reason, we’ll cover the art of fellatio in this article and the succeeding others.
Before you start, why don’t you grab your partner and read these fellatio articles together? This way, she can learn the many mind-blowing ways she can pleasure you even before you guys engage in intercourse.
Why Oral Sex for Him Rocks
The ’she submits, he rules’ mentality. Throughout time and various cultures, oral sex for him has always been regarded as just another way for men to show their dominion over women. First, consider the standard position: he stands up, or sits down, or lies pleasantly on his back, while she kneels, bows her head and pleasures him.
Today, there’s still a bit of truth behind this mentality. Admit it. Isn’t it a tremendous ego boost for you if you see your woman go down on you and start pleasuring you in s somewhat submissive position? Of course it is!
It’s all about visual cues. Going away from the submission and dominion route, another reason why fellatio is great for your sex lives is because as we all know by now, men are such visual creatures.
In fact, just take a second to consider this: sure, men may close their eyes and be in complete rapture as their women perform oral sex on them. However, often enough, men actually keep their eyes open and watch as their partners perform fellatio on them. This is because seeing their woman perform oral sex on them is as much of a turn on as the deed itself.
Oral sex for him is a great sexual alternative. If your partner is at the latter stages of pregnancy, then chances are, she may not want to engage in intercourse. As a result, this can leave you very sexually frustrated. Hmmm, a sexually frustrated man and a very pregnant woman – you can see that this can easily be the route of many relationship fights.
With fellatio, however, you can still enjoy the pleasures of climax without necessarily forcing your partner with intercourse. As to whether she should swallow or not, that is really more of a personal preference and not related to your partner being pregnant or not.
Still, in the old and unenlightened times, there was actually a myth that swallowing semen is bad for a pregnant woman. That myth has long been busted as studies show that the chemical composition of semen can actually be healthy for pregnant women!
Fellatio can be a great, yet naughty way to spice up your relationship. For many couples, there soon comes a time when intercourse becomes boring and routine. One great way to increase sexual tension in your relationship is to engage in oral sex a lot. By this I don’t only mean for foreplay. Why not have nights when you deliberately do not have intercourse at all?
That may sound crazy but consider this: by just concentrating on oral sex, you can find or even develop other ways to ingeniously pleasure each other without penetration. And yet you guys STILL get to climax! It’s a win-win situation really.
Oral sex for HIM is healthy for HER. In a 2003 study by the North Carolina State University on 15,000 women, they found out that those who performed fellatio regularly (once or twice per week) showed a reduced risk for breast cancer of about 40%! Although the study has yet to discover why exactly, the study does show that there’s a link between the two.
There you have it. All the good reasons to go down on him tonight!

Gabrielle Moore is owner of The http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com” rel=”nofollow”>Female Orgasm Revealed, a site to help men please their female partners with an orgasm every time. For more information, go to: http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com
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Soul Freedom Exercise – Yab-Yum Yum

moderator — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 18:08:59 +0000

The Tibetan Buddhist term yab-yum translates as father/mother, masculine/feminine or yang/yin. Yab-yum is the ultimate Tantric lovemaking position because it is ideal for sharing energy.

Time for Exercise: five minutes to one hour

Properties Required: each other

Steps:

In the yab-yum sexual position, the woman straddles the man as he sits cross-legged on the floor in the lotus position. He might have cushions under his knees for support and comfort, especially if he wants to maintain the position for more than a few minutes. Very firm Indian style pillows work perfectly. Alternatively, he might sit on a straight-backed chair and she will climb on top.

The lovers face each other with eyes open. They harmonize their breathing (see Harmony Breath). They can kiss, touching their tongues together. The eyes, breath, and tongues act as energy switches connecting the flow of hot sexual energy between the two lovers’ bodies.

Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more info Visit www.tantra-sex.com, www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com
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Sex Games for the More Daring – Part 2

moderator — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 05:54:56 +0000

One of the reasons to include sex games in your relationship is to increase excitement and to remove boredom or prevent anything in your relationship from reaching `routine status’. As such, you should always be on the lookout for more, new and exciting sex games to try with your lover. And for that you need not go far, simply read on and see which one you want to try tonight, and which ones you want to save for later.
Daring Sex Games to Push Excitement and Intimacy to the Next Level
HONEY, I LIKE SPORTS TOO
Sports and sex: what a lethal combination! If your partner is one who’s not into sports as you are, then this sex game is a great way for her to take part in your love for the sport too. Start by agreeing on a sport that you both will watch. Assign different teams to each other.
List down several sexual activities: each one increasing in naughtiness and heat level as the last. Watch the game together and list down each team’s scores. At the end of the game, the team/partner with the highest score wins! The loser needs to carry out ALL of the sexual activities listed by the winner.
HOT Variation Tip # 1: Instead of waiting for the game to end, cash in your points each time your team scores something.
HOT Variation Tip # 2: Carry out this sex game while having family and friends over! During each break, sneak off to the bedroom or bathroom and start collecting your winning points!
FIND YOUR PLEASURE
List down the Top 5 things that you know your lover just absolutely loves you performing on her. Don’t be shy to list down things that really make her crazy and shout! Turn these things into five sex coupons and hide it in different places of your bedroom. Tonight, tell her that she needs to go on a massive sex coupon hunt.
As she searches in the room, say if she’s `hotter’ or `colder’ as she comes close or far to a sex coupon. Whatever coupon she finds, you must do the deed listed on the coupon!
HOT Variation Tip # 1: Use a timer and set this to 30 seconds or 1 minute. Your partner should find as many sex coupons as she can in that time. Whatever she finds, you must do whatever’s listed on the coupons found.
HOT Variation Tip # 2: Don’t list various sexual activities on the coupons, list down sex positions instead. Another tip is not to indicate this in words but in pictures. Cut out (or download from the internet and print out) some really hot sex positions and paste this on the sex coupons.
TRUTH OR DARE
This is a sexualized version of this popular game. Tonight, make sure you’re alone at home. After a nice, sexy, romantic dinner, turn down the lights, light some scented candles and play some soft, sexy music.
Take of all your clothes and sit across each other on the floor or bed, and then play the traditional Turn or Dare game. This time, however, only questions concerning sexual activities are allowed. Use this opportunity to really know your lover and help her bring out your sexual fantasies to life. For example, you can ask questions like “what public place would really like to try and have sex?”, “what sexual fantasy do you want to try tonight”?
BLINDFOLD ME
In this sex game, you’re blindfolded by your lover and she gets to put some lotion or scented oil all over your body. (Stuff like chocolate, honey, or whipped cream is also allowed.) She then starts to touch a part of your body with something (a feather, cotton ball, her tongue, etc.) and then you have to guess what she’s using to touch you. If you guess correctly, you can demand a sexual activity from her. If you guess wrong, she gets to ask a sexual activity from you.
THE ONE-NIGHT STAND
Role-playing is very much a part of many sex games. It’s a great way to break down any shyness on your or her part because a part of you thinks that it’s not really you engaging in that sexual act anyway. One favorite sex game of many couples is to role-play the one nigh stand affair.
Don’t plan this one. Just email, call or send a message to your partner that you plan to eat out tonight and if he/she can meet you at this pub or bar later. (You can decide to meet at a real sleazy bar.) Don’t give anything else away.
Once you meet at the pub, act like you’re someone else and try to `pick her up’ from the bar. If she’s game, she’ll easily pick up your hints and play along. Now, move on and DON’T go home. Go to a motel or hotel room and do the deed!

Gabrielle Moore is the co-author of The http://www.thegspotcode.com “>G Spot Code. It teaches men how to please women with G Spot orgasms every time. For more information, go to: http://www.thegspotcode.com
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Learn How to Talk Dirty – 5 Tips

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 23:58:53 +0000

Words are powerful in the boardroom, but they can be magical in the bedroom. If you are looking for ways to spice up your sex life, learn to turn him on the next time you get together with a little bit of dirty talk. Here are 5 tips for opening up a new chapter in the book of your lovemaking with him.Tip #1: Set the tone for your encounter: Breaking into this new territory will be easier if you set the right ambience for your intimate encounter together. Try lighting some candles, buy a new piece of lingerie, or maybe put on some mood music. Of course, make sure that you choose a time and place where you will not have any interruptions and where nobody can hear your murmurs of pleasure. Tip #2: Give him a little teaser: If you fear you might embarrass him the first time you try talking dirty, try working it slowly into your lovemaking the next time you get together. As things are starting to warm up, encourage what he is already doing by whispering passionately, “I love it when you do that.” This will give him confidence about his prowess and also provide him with a teaser of what is to come. Tip #3: Tell him what you want him to do to you: Once he confidently knows that you think he already has some great skills in bed, try dropping a hint during foreplay about what you want him to do. Something as simple as whispering, “I would love it if you did [fill in blank]” will do just fine. Say it with a surrendering tone that tells him you will soon be putty in his hands. Hint: to keep things moving, be sure to give him plenty of feedback along the way. Tip #4: Ask him what he wants you to do: For your next lovemaking session, ask him what he wants you to do to him. This will get him talking dirty, which should be one of your goals. Do not expect poetry from him (or yourself) and be sure not to make light of his words if he sounds awkward at first. Just like you, his ego in certain areas is fragile, so make sure to make him feel comfortable saying whatever comes to his mind. Tip #5: Turn up the heat with new vocabulary: Now, it is time to turn up the heat by using words you would never dream of saying outside of the bedroom. There is no need to “go XXX” here (unless you sense the mood is right for both of you). But, do start referring to each others’ bodies and body parts in new and colorful ways. For example, instead of just telling him what you want him to do in general terms, be more specific. Describe what you desire in vivid detail, telling him step by step what you would like him to do, or what you want to do to him. Talking dirty with you man in bed is one of those things that may sound awkward or even silly when you are not in the right kind of mood. But, once you get things going with your man, slipping in a bit of dirty talk will do wonders for your sex life. Soon, you may find that it becomes a regular part of your sex play.

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How to Shoot X-Rated Videos Like a Pro

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:10:02 +0000

You’ve convinced your partner to agree to make your own private, erotic video and you guys are now counting the days to your scheduled video shoot. So can you expect that everything will run smoothly then? Not if you don’t know how to properly shoot video.
Nothing can be more annoying than to discuss, agonize, agree, prepare and then shoot an x-rated video only to find out that hardly anything was recorded of your lovemaking or that you can hardly see anything but shadows! So read on and find out how you can shoot your x-rated video like a pro.
What to Do When Shooting an Erotic Video
First of all, know your camcorder like it is your best friend! If you know how to operate it – yes, even in the dark – then you greatly reduce the risk of anything going wrong during your erotic video shoot. Besides, it would be quite annoying and sexually frustrating if you had to fiddle with the darn video camera instead of fiddling with your partner!
Go over the manual and do some practice shoots not only outdoors and during the daytime but also indoors and during nighttime! It’s a great way to check for proper lighting inside the room too.
You should also go online and look for some common video problems and how others troubleshoot them. Knowing first-hand what MIGHT go wrong will help prevent you panicking if something doesn’t go according to plan. Just don’t overdo it. A little troubleshooting know-how is really enough.
Secondly, be prepared with what ‘extras’ you might need. A spare battery or your battery charger/power supply should be in reach. Have duct tape nearby too… not for bondage games but for taping down your videocam’s extension cord so that you guys trip over it (and get caught on tape while doing it!).
Also, don’t forget to have a spare blank tape. You never know how long you’re lovemaking will be and you don’t want to miss out on the ‘big scene’, do you?
Thirdly, use a tripod and get that perfect height. You don’t want the video to be one long footage of your ceiling, right? Use a tripod and test different heights to see which one suits the room and bed height best.
Fourthly, lighting is everything so be sure that you test the lighting in the room where you will make love so that it’s not too bright, too dark, or too grainy on video afterwards.
Fifthly, have you thought of audio? This part depends largely on the quality of your video recorder (i.e., the mic that’s built-in the camcorder). If you’re camcorder doesn’t record audio well and your ‘love sounds’ are important for you guys to hear later on, then think of investing on an external microphone you can plug onto the video recorder.
Of course, if you guys really want to go all out and be daring, you can always hire a professional videographer to shoot your lovemaking. Here are some guidelines.
- Be sure that the person you hire is a professional (and not just a peeping tom). Ask for references, his website and any other detail that will make you more comfortable dealing with the videographer.
- Be sure there’s an iron-clad non-disclosure contract between the two of you. You don’t want your x-rated video mysteriously appearing on the Internet so be sure that you have a contract that prevents this and of course gives you the right to sue!
- Check his equipment when he arrives to be sure there are no ‘back up tapes’ ready to roll on another videocam or something.
- Before he leaves, ensure that he hands over the video and check again that he’s not leaving with any ‘extra copies’.
Deciding to shoot an erotic video is a big step for any couple but really, it’s not that hard. In fact, the hardest part will most probably be deciding on whether to do it or not.
If you decide to shoot the x-rated video yourselves – which is the easiest and safest option – it’s not that hard preparing for it even if you’ve never handled a videocam before. In fact, you can probably ask a relative to teach you how to do it without revealing exactly what you want to tape!
On the other hand, if you don’t want to be bothered and are ok with the idea of hiring an erotic videographer, then just be sure to following the safety precautions we outlined above.
Good luck!

Gabrielle Moore is the co-author of The http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com/female-ejaculation.html” rel=”nofollow”>Female Ejaculation Mastery. It is a step-by-step guide to teach men about female ejaculation. For more information, go to: http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com/female-ejaculation.html
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How to Find a Professional Erotic Videographer

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 11:53:59 +0000

As in many cases, the first step is always the hardest to take. And you probably felt the same way when you first decided to record yourselves while lovemaking. However, as you take part in more erotic videos, the idea of bringing in a `professional’ may cross your minds… a professional videographer I mean.
The Benefits of Hiring an Erotic Videographer
A professional erotic videographer can do many things for your x-rated videos. For one, it can enable you and your partner to engage in lovemaking with more abandon because no one has the responsibility of looking after the videocam! No more checking if the tape is still running, no worries that the lighting is off, no shaky videos because you can’t hold the camera steady, and others.
Another reason why hiring an erotic videographer is a good idea is because it increases the `illicit’ factor of your lovemaking, all the more heating up your sex lives.
Here’s a tip: if you can find someone who fits the bill, hire a sexy hunk or woman to do the filming. The thought of such a *hot* person filming you and your partner increases the sexiness of the occasion. Just be sure you and your partner are BOTH ok with this. The idea is to have the sexy and hot videographer inspire you to be more lustful and not to make you guys self-conscious.
4 Ways to Find a Discreet Videographer to Shoot Your X-Rated Videos
Search online. Nowadays, some erotic videographers promote their services online. If you come across such a site, check to see the videographer’s bio. If he or she lives in the same area or state as you guys do, a personal meeting is not a bad idea.
Ask around. If you have friends or even family members whom you know watch adult-rated videos a lot or already engage in their own erotic videos, ask them for referrals! Who knows, some of them may even volunteer to do it. If they do though, be very cautious. Sometimes, hiring a compete stranger or third party – and not someone you’ll see on the next family barbecue – is better.
Here’s a tip: Visit your local adult video shop and ask the salespeople or owner if they can recommend anybody who shoots erotic videos.
Check the Classified Ads. Check the Yellow Pages or the Personals ad section of your Sunday papers to see if there’s someone discreetly offering their video recording services.
Place your own ad! When all else fails, place your own ad asking for someone who has experience shooting erotic videos. You can place your ad online and on newspapers and just see how it goes.
Hiring an Erotic Videographer – Always Proceed with Caution…
Regardless of what avenue you take when looking for an adult-rated videographer, ALWAYS take precautionary steps.
When placing an ad, never reveal your real name, phone number and address, or anything that conveys your true identity. You don’t want all the spooks to start calling and visiting you.
It’s important to meet the videographer in person so that you can be re-assured that he or she is not just some pervert who wants to see people making love but a true professional who does this for a living. Keep in mind that what he/she will be doing is to record a very private moment between you and your partner so it’s important that you trust him or her on the matter of discreetness.
When meeting the videographer, you should have a good feeling not just about his persona but about his expertise. For instance, ask him about lighting, types of videocams, etc. It’s important that you engage only with a true professional in the field.
It might be tricky to ask for `samples’ or `referrals’ as other people obviously do not want their erotic videos seen by you (and vice versa!) but that does not mean that you cannot ask for contracts. Make sure that there are Non-Disclosure Agreements, Copyright notices and all other safety precautions.
If he’s a professional, he’ll be used to this and in fact, he should already have these standard contracts in place. Basically, protect yourself from having the erotic video leaked and that if he ever does so, you can legally stop him.
Having somebody else videotape your most private moments is very thrilling but that does not mean that you should not be very careful with whom you deal with. However, once you find that person, you’ll see your personal x-rated videos reach a whole new level so do give it a try!

Sex Games for the Outdoors

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:19:10 +0000

Sex games can do wonders for any relationship. They help build trust in one another and help to keep the passion alive for couples. But now that you’ve been engaging in sex games, maybe it’s time to up the heat a bit by doing sex games outside your home.
If you and your partner are up to it, read on and try these sex games meant for outdoor pleasure. Just remember that the basic rules don’t change. Mainly, if one is not comfortable with any of the games, then the other must not pressure him or her to do the sex game. At the same time, read the following sex games with an open mind. You never know what new and exciting thrills they can bring to your relationship until you try them out.
Erotic Sex Games for Outdoor Pleasure
7 Sinful Locations
Get pen and paper; preferably, two different colors of paper. Each of you should have 7 pieces of paper and on these, indicate 7 outdoor locations where you want to make love. For example, you can mention swimming pool, friend’s house, mom and dad’s room, beach, woods, open field, and public restaurant.
Put the 7 locations in a basket or big fishbowl. Every Friday (or any day you guys designate) pick out a new location from the bowl. Of course, it’s assumed that you have somewhat prepared for your set of 7 locations. For example, if one of your sinful locations is the `swimming pool’ and you guys don’t have one, then keep in mind a list of potential other pools you can use so that when this option is pulled out, you guys are ready to go.
HOT Variation Tip #1: To make this game more exciting, have your partner list down her 7 sinful outdoor locations on say white-colored paper, while you list down your 7 sinful lovemaking positions on blue-colored paper. Every Friday, draw out one white and one blue colored paper and bingo! you have one hot sex position to try in a new location!
Auto Erotica
This is a great foreplay sex game that should lead to your lover finding you in a different place in town. If you know that say, every Saturday your partner leaves off to do a weekly chore, be sure to have planted your naughty erotic messages in his/her car the day before.
Hide the clues in the car. About 5 minutes after your lover has been away from home, call him/her and say you have an erotic message for her in the glove compartment or something.
This erotic message should then lead to one message after the other. Your imagination is your only limit here. For example, a friend of mine left messages (in sealed envelopes of course!) at the neighborhood grocer and local bakery for his wife to pickup as she did her weekly grocery shopping to guide her to a motel where he was waiting… naked.
If you plan to do this on a weekday, you can simply leave messages first in his/her car, then in his/her briefcase, and then send an email, etc. The point is to make this a sort of egg hunt game where your partner is led to the prize (read: you) after hints or clues discovered along the way.
HOT Variation Tip #1: Instead of paper clues, you can also just record an audio tape of yourself talking naughty or even dirty to your partner. You then make a CD of this and put it in his/her CD player in the car. In between the naughty talk, guide your lover to your secret location.
The Waiter
You know sometimes you’re so used to your local grocer, baker and even your favorite waiter at your favorite restaurant that you know what they are going to say the minute you walk through the door? Well, for this sex game, you leave the type of lovemaking you will have with your partner to this person.
Here’s a sample scenario, book a table at your favorite local restaurant. Before going to dinner, you and your partner should pre-agree on certain `cause and effect’ scenarios. For example, what’s the first thing that you’re favorite waiter will say when he seats you guys down?
If you say “What would you like to drink?” and the waiter says this, it means you get to feel her under the table.
If your partner says “My, [name of your wife/girlfriend/lover] looks ravishing tonight.” and the waiter says this, it means she gets to handcuff you in bed later.
Make a list of about 5-8 sentences or actions by the waiter and their respective effects on your lovemaking tonight.
Enjoy!

More Bathroom Sex Games for You and Your Partner to Enjoy

moderator — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:57:08 +0000

Not all sex games need to end up in intercourse. Keep in mind that the objective of sex games is to spice up your sexual relationship and if the actual `effect’ takes place immediately afterwards, great. If not, it doesn’t mean that the sex game was not successful. It’s just that the effect takes place later.
Furthermore, no matter how hard we try, sometimes, you (or your partner) are not just in the mood for lovemaking. But that doesn’t mean that you forego sexual playfulness all together! And this is where subtle sex games come into play.
Shower Sex Games to Whet Your Sexual Appetites
The ABCs of Your Anatomy
While relaxing together in the bathtub, why not play the Sexual ABC game? This sex game challenges your knowledge of the human anatomy. The objective of the game is to have your partner work through the alphabet (you’ll be the one dictating the letter and body part!) by gently massaging the various parts of your lover’s body.
For example, for A, you tell your partner to massage your Ankle. For B, tell your partner to massage your Back. If you manage to work from A to Z, then pick your favorite massage and go back to that body part!
Take the Shower Sex Quiz!
At one time, that sexy modern-day goddess known as Angelina Jolie has been quoted as saying that something about being naked in the bathroom makes her free to discuss anything and everything (or something to that effect). So is it the perfect opportunity now to have your lover take a sex quiz while you two are in the shower? Give it a try!
In reality, one or the other always makes fun of sex quizzes but if you know how to read between the lines, there’s always a glimmer of truth somewhere there. So before you get into the bath or shower tonight, browse the Internet for a fun and intriguing sex game that you and your partner can go through. Some fun quizzes can be about erogenous zones, sexual myths, sex positions, or even STD’s!
It’s a great way to know more about your partner and going through a sex positions quiz will help you gauge just how much your partner knows, and/or what he or she is willing to do in that department.
The Sexual Auction
Put together a list of at least 12 romantic or sexual activities. Here’s a sample list: walking together in the park, working out together, oral sex, missionary position, woman on top, sexual massage, foot massage, bathroom sex, doggie style, cooking together, going out on a `date’ (dinner out and watching a movie), and sharing a bath in the tub.
Put the activities you wrote down in a bowl or plastic bucket. Pick out an activity and using either plastic play coins or writing down amounts, make a `secret bid’ for that activity.
For example, she bid $25 for a foot massage, and you bid only $10. This means that she wins the activity from you. The price is then collected at any time.
Sexual Authors
Turn off the lights, burn scented oils and light a dozen or so candles. Play some sensual music and run the bath. (If you don’t have a tub, standing under a warm spay of water is perfectly fine too!)
Now lie back and close your eyes. Start a story, any story about a man and woman hot for each other. Time your story to say 2 minutes. After 2 minutes, your partner must continue the sensual story to whatever turn of events she wants to make. After the 2 minutes, it’s your turn again. I guarantee that you guys will just naturally heat up the story as you go along, each turn making you ant to spell out more and more sexually graphic events.
Here’s a tip: if after some time you guys really get better at your `stories’, record the next time you engage in this sex game and then listen to it either while lovemaking or if your partner is away. It’s a huge turn on!
In addition to sex games not always having to end in lovemaking, note too that not all sex games require a `winner’ and a `loser’, a `prize’ and a `penalty’. Just engage in them wholeheartedly and the game is a reward in itself.

You Can Have Hot, Passionate Sex and Beat the Bedroom Blahs

moderator — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 17:54:45 +0000

Almost every couple knows what it’s like to get bored in the bedroom. You know how it is. Your beloved calls you to bed and you can’t even motivate yourself to get off the sofa. Or you find yourself feeling frisky, but would just as soon pleasure yourself as get between the sheets and go through your usual boring routine together. Fortunately, there are some easy solutions to heating things up when you’re bored in the bedroom.

Solution #1: Admit that you’re bored.

Don’t keep your bedroom boredom a secret. Tell your partner, politely, that it’s time to spice things up. Chances are, your partner has also noticed that you’ve been less than enthusiastic lately. Don’t make it personal, just say that you’ve been in the mood for a change and want your partner’s cooperation.

Solution #2: Take charge.

Not fair to sit and complain or pout. If you want your lovemaking to be more passionate, then you’ve got to take the initiative. Maybe you’re the one that needs to get the kids out of the house for the evening so that you can have more time to explore some new avenues, like a visit to the sex shop that just opened up down the road. Or maybe you’re the one that’s going to bring a blindfold to bed.

Solution #3: Try new lovemaking skills.

One of the big reasons sex gets boring is because couples really do tend to do the same thing over and over again. Has it been a long time since you’ve read a book about how to pleasure each other? Pick one up or order one online for inspiration. Just looking at some erotic material might be enough to get your imagination going. Nothing wrong with leaving a few pages bookmarked for your partner to peek at, either.

By admitting that you’re bored, taking responsibility for making a change, and brushing up on your lovemaking skills, you can make the sparks start flying again. Don’t take your sex life for granted. Like most every other part of your relationship, you need to put energy and effort into keeping sex vital and fun.

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100 Sex Games For Couples,Sex Games,Sexuality,Better Sex, Great Sex, Good Sex

moderator — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 05:56:10 +0000

One of the greatest challenges in your long term relationship is attempting to keep things fun and exciting in the bedroom.However, work or your kids or a myriad of other tasks and chores that need to be done often interfere with the time you need to stoke the flames of passion in your sex life. If you are like me you know how busy life can be so it only makes sense to find new ideas that can be used over and again in your list of love making techniques.Into this situation comes “100 Sex Games for Couples”. This is nothing outrageously kinky as sex games are a great way to keep your lovemaking fresh and original and may also have a longer reuse value than the variety of sex positions and lovemaking techniques.Does this e-book by Michael Webb actually deliver on this promise though with enough good sex games to keep things interesting?The book starts well with an introduction about how intimacy is spiritual, emotional & physical covering more aspects than some guides that gloss over straight to the physical aspect. This sets the tone for the entire book as the games are about ‘making love’ and not just a physical act of sexual intercourse.The actual games that follow are divided into two sections which confused me for a second because there were only 33 games not a hundred until I saw that each game had multiple variations taking the total to 100. These variations have different rules and variation on the original concept which I thought was interesting because you could use the same game with a twist just when your partner might have been getting used to the original to keep them on their toes! Some of the games are more entertaining than others like any comprehensive list but they all had merit and some were very imaginative and very sexy.For example there is an exciting guessing game, a passionate night of lovemaking but starting from an unusual location, an pleasurable storytelling game which I quite liked and even a card game with a twist (no, not just strip poker). They range from games involving food to communicating, touching and sharing intimate moments.All in all, the book is well worth the asking price, considering it could be the very thing that brings you closer together as a couple!So, is this book worth it? For the small amount it costs and the amazing variety of ideas that will give you many nights of pleasure and togetherness it is a great bit of extra reading that can liven up your sex life for years.I recommend this guide to anyone looking for something new if things have gone a bit stale or even to those who are having good sex but want it to be great!

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