What is Tantra and How Can it Improve Your Sex Life?

moderator — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 18:09:33 +0000

The interest in tantra is growing as men and women look to increase the connection and pleasure of the sexual connection. Studies show that 70% men have affairs in marriage and after 2 years over 50% of women are unsatisfied in their sexuality.
As a tantra teacher and sexologist, I speak to a lot of women about lovemaking. It is very rare for me to meet married women that are satisfied in her lovemaking with her partner. I believe a good sex life it the basis of a great relationship. In fact, one reason many women nag and are critical of their partner is the fact that they are not taken deep into their erotic and orgasmic energy.
Tantra is a ageless traditions that came from India thousands of years ago. Many of the tantra teachings are now being validated by modern research. For example female ejaculation was mentioned thousands of years ago.
The porn industry teaches men a very masculine approach to sexuality. The fact is that most women do not like this unconnected, high friction approach in lovemaking. How often do you see the actors make eye contact in porn? How often do you feel any love or connection during porn? How after do you feel the women is faking her energy in porn? I believe this style of lovemaking using high friction makes both men and women less sensitive to going into deeper orgasmic and erotic states.
If a man uses this porn style of lovemaking it is little wonder that after a year or so, her partner will switch off her sexuality and desire something much more.
What are some tantra principles to improve your lovemaking?
The first is to forget about orgasm but just be more present in your body and breath. Most men are too goal orientated and miss the connection and energy flows.
Another tantra principle is to relax and relax more. Any tension in the body will hinder the energy flow between the lovers. Developing the ability to have high erotic energy and totally relaxed is the key to developing multiple orgasmic experiences for both men and women. Men can learn to have orgasms with no ejaculation and no loss of energy and connection. Once he learns this, he can be present and make love for hours. This allows his partner to enter much deeper orgasmic states.
The third principle is to allow your focus to be on your breath and deepen and slow down the breath. This allows more energy to flow and it also helps a man not to come too soon. The breath can also be used as a way of going back into your body and energy away from thoughts or fantasy.
Have fun trying these simple tantra principles the next time you make love.

Maurice Tate is a qualified sexologist who specializes with couples. Discover tantra in australia and
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The Best Positions for Incredible Orgasms

moderator — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:27:56 +0000

Think there is no such thing as the ‘best position’ for achieving mind-blowing orgasms?

Think again!

However, the best positions for men and women are different, just as physically we are different. Men and women need different stimuli in different places and at a range of pressures and intensity. Just by moving an inch in any direction while in these positions, you can dramatically change the feeling and intensity of a position.

Take your time to find the best angles for the both of you, while using these positions.

The Best Position For Women To Climax

The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

Since you typically want the women to orgasm first, this would be one of your first positions and then you can move to a position where the man has full control
for his orgasm.

You can vary your leg positions by both of you spreading your legs, or by alternating the one who has them spread and the one who has them together.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows you to fondle her breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. She can also stimulate herself by touching her clitoris in this position.

For those of you who haven’t tried it, she kneels before you (some women enjoy it more if their head is down on a pillow) and you enter her from behind. The main benefit for the guy is a view of her beautiful bottom and being able to see the action, while getting incredibly deep penetration (men with above average penis size need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

The Mistake Couples Make Using Lovemaking Positions

Of course, books show dozens, if not hundreds, of sexual positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each.

So what happens when you’ve tried all eight positions to death? Let’s face it – lovemaking generally ends up being the same. That’s why you should explore ALL aspects of each other’s sexuality. I don’t mean anything freaky here. I just mean cultivate an adventurous spirit. Turn foreplay into a game. Add a prop or two.

Try a new place. How about starting off with a plate of fruits? There are literally HUNDREDS of ways you can make your lovemaking more exciting, passionate and fulfilling long-term, rather than just trying new positions. The most important thing is to retain a sense of adventure. A sense of humour also helps!

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What is Tantra and How Can it Improve Your Sex Life?

The Best Positions for Incredible Orgasms