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What is Oral Sex?

moderator — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 05:54:36 +0000

Oral sex pertains to a range of sexual activities that involve your mouth, lips, tongue, throat and even teeth to sexually stimulate your partner’s sex organs. Oral sex goes by many fancy names: it’s cunnilingus when it’s oral sex done on females; fellatio when its oral sex done on males; and analingus when it’s oral sex performed on a man or woman’s anus.
Cunnilingus is derived from the Latin words cunnus and lingua, which mean vulva and tongue, respectively. Fellatio, on the other hand, comes from the Latin word fell?re, which means to suck.
Oral sex is usually viewed as an essential part of foreplay but it’s of course also a way to bring your sex partner to a wonderful climax.
As we have covered cunnilingus already a couple of months back, it’s time for the boys to get their turn don’t you think? For this reason, we’ll cover the art of fellatio in this article and the succeeding others.
Before you start, why don’t you grab your partner and read these fellatio articles together? This way, she can learn the many mind-blowing ways she can pleasure you even before you guys engage in intercourse.
Why Oral Sex for Him Rocks
The ’she submits, he rules’ mentality. Throughout time and various cultures, oral sex for him has always been regarded as just another way for men to show their dominion over women. First, consider the standard position: he stands up, or sits down, or lies pleasantly on his back, while she kneels, bows her head and pleasures him.
Today, there’s still a bit of truth behind this mentality. Admit it. Isn’t it a tremendous ego boost for you if you see your woman go down on you and start pleasuring you in s somewhat submissive position? Of course it is!
It’s all about visual cues. Going away from the submission and dominion route, another reason why fellatio is great for your sex lives is because as we all know by now, men are such visual creatures.
In fact, just take a second to consider this: sure, men may close their eyes and be in complete rapture as their women perform oral sex on them. However, often enough, men actually keep their eyes open and watch as their partners perform fellatio on them. This is because seeing their woman perform oral sex on them is as much of a turn on as the deed itself.
Oral sex for him is a great sexual alternative. If your partner is at the latter stages of pregnancy, then chances are, she may not want to engage in intercourse. As a result, this can leave you very sexually frustrated. Hmmm, a sexually frustrated man and a very pregnant woman – you can see that this can easily be the route of many relationship fights.
With fellatio, however, you can still enjoy the pleasures of climax without necessarily forcing your partner with intercourse. As to whether she should swallow or not, that is really more of a personal preference and not related to your partner being pregnant or not.
Still, in the old and unenlightened times, there was actually a myth that swallowing semen is bad for a pregnant woman. That myth has long been busted as studies show that the chemical composition of semen can actually be healthy for pregnant women!
Fellatio can be a great, yet naughty way to spice up your relationship. For many couples, there soon comes a time when intercourse becomes boring and routine. One great way to increase sexual tension in your relationship is to engage in oral sex a lot. By this I don’t only mean for foreplay. Why not have nights when you deliberately do not have intercourse at all?
That may sound crazy but consider this: by just concentrating on oral sex, you can find or even develop other ways to ingeniously pleasure each other without penetration. And yet you guys STILL get to climax! It’s a win-win situation really.
Oral sex for HIM is healthy for HER. In a 2003 study by the North Carolina State University on 15,000 women, they found out that those who performed fellatio regularly (once or twice per week) showed a reduced risk for breast cancer of about 40%! Although the study has yet to discover why exactly, the study does show that there’s a link between the two.
There you have it. All the good reasons to go down on him tonight!

Gabrielle Moore is owner of The http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com” rel=”nofollow”>Female Orgasm Revealed, a site to help men please their female partners with an orgasm every time. For more information, go to: http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com
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Sex Games for the More Daring – Part 2

moderator — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 05:54:56 +0000

One of the reasons to include sex games in your relationship is to increase excitement and to remove boredom or prevent anything in your relationship from reaching `routine status’. As such, you should always be on the lookout for more, new and exciting sex games to try with your lover. And for that you need not go far, simply read on and see which one you want to try tonight, and which ones you want to save for later.
Daring Sex Games to Push Excitement and Intimacy to the Next Level
HONEY, I LIKE SPORTS TOO
Sports and sex: what a lethal combination! If your partner is one who’s not into sports as you are, then this sex game is a great way for her to take part in your love for the sport too. Start by agreeing on a sport that you both will watch. Assign different teams to each other.
List down several sexual activities: each one increasing in naughtiness and heat level as the last. Watch the game together and list down each team’s scores. At the end of the game, the team/partner with the highest score wins! The loser needs to carry out ALL of the sexual activities listed by the winner.
HOT Variation Tip # 1: Instead of waiting for the game to end, cash in your points each time your team scores something.
HOT Variation Tip # 2: Carry out this sex game while having family and friends over! During each break, sneak off to the bedroom or bathroom and start collecting your winning points!
FIND YOUR PLEASURE
List down the Top 5 things that you know your lover just absolutely loves you performing on her. Don’t be shy to list down things that really make her crazy and shout! Turn these things into five sex coupons and hide it in different places of your bedroom. Tonight, tell her that she needs to go on a massive sex coupon hunt.
As she searches in the room, say if she’s `hotter’ or `colder’ as she comes close or far to a sex coupon. Whatever coupon she finds, you must do the deed listed on the coupon!
HOT Variation Tip # 1: Use a timer and set this to 30 seconds or 1 minute. Your partner should find as many sex coupons as she can in that time. Whatever she finds, you must do whatever’s listed on the coupons found.
HOT Variation Tip # 2: Don’t list various sexual activities on the coupons, list down sex positions instead. Another tip is not to indicate this in words but in pictures. Cut out (or download from the internet and print out) some really hot sex positions and paste this on the sex coupons.
TRUTH OR DARE
This is a sexualized version of this popular game. Tonight, make sure you’re alone at home. After a nice, sexy, romantic dinner, turn down the lights, light some scented candles and play some soft, sexy music.
Take of all your clothes and sit across each other on the floor or bed, and then play the traditional Turn or Dare game. This time, however, only questions concerning sexual activities are allowed. Use this opportunity to really know your lover and help her bring out your sexual fantasies to life. For example, you can ask questions like “what public place would really like to try and have sex?”, “what sexual fantasy do you want to try tonight”?
BLINDFOLD ME
In this sex game, you’re blindfolded by your lover and she gets to put some lotion or scented oil all over your body. (Stuff like chocolate, honey, or whipped cream is also allowed.) She then starts to touch a part of your body with something (a feather, cotton ball, her tongue, etc.) and then you have to guess what she’s using to touch you. If you guess correctly, you can demand a sexual activity from her. If you guess wrong, she gets to ask a sexual activity from you.
THE ONE-NIGHT STAND
Role-playing is very much a part of many sex games. It’s a great way to break down any shyness on your or her part because a part of you thinks that it’s not really you engaging in that sexual act anyway. One favorite sex game of many couples is to role-play the one nigh stand affair.
Don’t plan this one. Just email, call or send a message to your partner that you plan to eat out tonight and if he/she can meet you at this pub or bar later. (You can decide to meet at a real sleazy bar.) Don’t give anything else away.
Once you meet at the pub, act like you’re someone else and try to `pick her up’ from the bar. If she’s game, she’ll easily pick up your hints and play along. Now, move on and DON’T go home. Go to a motel or hotel room and do the deed!

Gabrielle Moore is the co-author of The http://www.thegspotcode.com “>G Spot Code. It teaches men how to please women with G Spot orgasms every time. For more information, go to: http://www.thegspotcode.com
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5 Sex Tips for Doing it Daily

moderator — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:49:42 +0000

The realization that frequent sex produces numerous emotional and physical benefits is nothing new. Like many bits of wisdom it just has been forgotten. The awareness of the abundant health benefits of frequent sex has been recorded throughout history. The sage wisdom of “use or lose it” applies to both men and women. Frequent sex along with exercising the pelvic muscles goes along way in preventing prostrate problems in men and incontinence and prolapse problems in women, just to name a few of the health benefits.

Just as brushing and flossing your teeth daily prevents serious dental health problems, frequent sex and stimulation of your pelvis muscles can prevent serious health issues. And not only is sex healthy it is fun and exciting—much more than brushing your teeth.

Here are few sex tips to keep you going:

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Like massage, sex improves the flow of blood and it does it throughout your whole body. It not only improves circulation it can eliminate headaches too. An orgasm and the improved blood flow in the spine and the brain it causes may be just the thing to get rid of a migraine. Men the next time she says “Not tonight dear, I have a headache.” You can say “I’m sorry. Let’s have sex and get rid of it.”

The women of the Caingangues tribe in South America are known to have pelvic muscles 3 times stronger than those of the Brazilian city dwelling women. They are stronger because the way they traditionally carry loads forces them from the time they are young to have perfect posture and very strong pelvic floor muscles. The Caingangues women have never heard of incontinence and were astounded when told that most Western women rarely orgasm during intercourse.

You are not the only one who gets more pleasure out of a strong vagina. Strong PC muscles lets you squeeze your lover’s penis and increase erotic sensations for both of you.

Having trouble falling asleep. A good cure for insomnia is a little sex and nice orgasm. The relaxation that follows a climax will let you naturally drift off to sleep.

Ladies need a boost in the morning. A quickie in the morning gets both your hearts racing, your blood pumping and your mind clear. Followed by a quick shower and you are fresh and ready for the challenges the day.

The physical and emotional boost of sex to your self-esteem can work wonders for you sense of well-being.

Having strong pelvic floor muscles and sex also works as a laxative. The increased blood flow and muscle activity during sex and the relaxation following orgasm has numerous benefits and can solve many problems including constipation.

Feeling stressed? Are you mentally or physically “clogged up”? What better cure than sex? Unlike the women of the Caingangue tribe our lifestyle does not develop strong pelvic floor muscles in women. Studies suggest proliferate use of the chair further weakens these muscles. “Kegels” have been recommended to fix this but the squeeze and hold exercise is not enough to strengthen the pelvic floor.

For “Kegel exercise” to be effective the muscles must be exercised using resistance, just like any muscle. In fact Dr. Kegel made this clear in his research but this information gets left out. Probably because of the difficulty in providing a convenient means of doing it.

Nowadays women have many methods to they can use to get their pelvic muscles in shape for great sex and better health.

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How to Shoot X-Rated Videos Like a Pro

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:10:02 +0000

You’ve convinced your partner to agree to make your own private, erotic video and you guys are now counting the days to your scheduled video shoot. So can you expect that everything will run smoothly then? Not if you don’t know how to properly shoot video.
Nothing can be more annoying than to discuss, agonize, agree, prepare and then shoot an x-rated video only to find out that hardly anything was recorded of your lovemaking or that you can hardly see anything but shadows! So read on and find out how you can shoot your x-rated video like a pro.
What to Do When Shooting an Erotic Video
First of all, know your camcorder like it is your best friend! If you know how to operate it – yes, even in the dark – then you greatly reduce the risk of anything going wrong during your erotic video shoot. Besides, it would be quite annoying and sexually frustrating if you had to fiddle with the darn video camera instead of fiddling with your partner!
Go over the manual and do some practice shoots not only outdoors and during the daytime but also indoors and during nighttime! It’s a great way to check for proper lighting inside the room too.
You should also go online and look for some common video problems and how others troubleshoot them. Knowing first-hand what MIGHT go wrong will help prevent you panicking if something doesn’t go according to plan. Just don’t overdo it. A little troubleshooting know-how is really enough.
Secondly, be prepared with what ‘extras’ you might need. A spare battery or your battery charger/power supply should be in reach. Have duct tape nearby too… not for bondage games but for taping down your videocam’s extension cord so that you guys trip over it (and get caught on tape while doing it!).
Also, don’t forget to have a spare blank tape. You never know how long you’re lovemaking will be and you don’t want to miss out on the ‘big scene’, do you?
Thirdly, use a tripod and get that perfect height. You don’t want the video to be one long footage of your ceiling, right? Use a tripod and test different heights to see which one suits the room and bed height best.
Fourthly, lighting is everything so be sure that you test the lighting in the room where you will make love so that it’s not too bright, too dark, or too grainy on video afterwards.
Fifthly, have you thought of audio? This part depends largely on the quality of your video recorder (i.e., the mic that’s built-in the camcorder). If you’re camcorder doesn’t record audio well and your ‘love sounds’ are important for you guys to hear later on, then think of investing on an external microphone you can plug onto the video recorder.
Of course, if you guys really want to go all out and be daring, you can always hire a professional videographer to shoot your lovemaking. Here are some guidelines.
- Be sure that the person you hire is a professional (and not just a peeping tom). Ask for references, his website and any other detail that will make you more comfortable dealing with the videographer.
- Be sure there’s an iron-clad non-disclosure contract between the two of you. You don’t want your x-rated video mysteriously appearing on the Internet so be sure that you have a contract that prevents this and of course gives you the right to sue!
- Check his equipment when he arrives to be sure there are no ‘back up tapes’ ready to roll on another videocam or something.
- Before he leaves, ensure that he hands over the video and check again that he’s not leaving with any ‘extra copies’.
Deciding to shoot an erotic video is a big step for any couple but really, it’s not that hard. In fact, the hardest part will most probably be deciding on whether to do it or not.
If you decide to shoot the x-rated video yourselves – which is the easiest and safest option – it’s not that hard preparing for it even if you’ve never handled a videocam before. In fact, you can probably ask a relative to teach you how to do it without revealing exactly what you want to tape!
On the other hand, if you don’t want to be bothered and are ok with the idea of hiring an erotic videographer, then just be sure to following the safety precautions we outlined above.
Good luck!

Gabrielle Moore is the co-author of The http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com/female-ejaculation.html” rel=”nofollow”>Female Ejaculation Mastery. It is a step-by-step guide to teach men about female ejaculation. For more information, go to: http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com/female-ejaculation.html
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How to Find a Professional Erotic Videographer

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 11:53:59 +0000

As in many cases, the first step is always the hardest to take. And you probably felt the same way when you first decided to record yourselves while lovemaking. However, as you take part in more erotic videos, the idea of bringing in a `professional’ may cross your minds… a professional videographer I mean.
The Benefits of Hiring an Erotic Videographer
A professional erotic videographer can do many things for your x-rated videos. For one, it can enable you and your partner to engage in lovemaking with more abandon because no one has the responsibility of looking after the videocam! No more checking if the tape is still running, no worries that the lighting is off, no shaky videos because you can’t hold the camera steady, and others.
Another reason why hiring an erotic videographer is a good idea is because it increases the `illicit’ factor of your lovemaking, all the more heating up your sex lives.
Here’s a tip: if you can find someone who fits the bill, hire a sexy hunk or woman to do the filming. The thought of such a *hot* person filming you and your partner increases the sexiness of the occasion. Just be sure you and your partner are BOTH ok with this. The idea is to have the sexy and hot videographer inspire you to be more lustful and not to make you guys self-conscious.
4 Ways to Find a Discreet Videographer to Shoot Your X-Rated Videos
Search online. Nowadays, some erotic videographers promote their services online. If you come across such a site, check to see the videographer’s bio. If he or she lives in the same area or state as you guys do, a personal meeting is not a bad idea.
Ask around. If you have friends or even family members whom you know watch adult-rated videos a lot or already engage in their own erotic videos, ask them for referrals! Who knows, some of them may even volunteer to do it. If they do though, be very cautious. Sometimes, hiring a compete stranger or third party – and not someone you’ll see on the next family barbecue – is better.
Here’s a tip: Visit your local adult video shop and ask the salespeople or owner if they can recommend anybody who shoots erotic videos.
Check the Classified Ads. Check the Yellow Pages or the Personals ad section of your Sunday papers to see if there’s someone discreetly offering their video recording services.
Place your own ad! When all else fails, place your own ad asking for someone who has experience shooting erotic videos. You can place your ad online and on newspapers and just see how it goes.
Hiring an Erotic Videographer – Always Proceed with Caution…
Regardless of what avenue you take when looking for an adult-rated videographer, ALWAYS take precautionary steps.
When placing an ad, never reveal your real name, phone number and address, or anything that conveys your true identity. You don’t want all the spooks to start calling and visiting you.
It’s important to meet the videographer in person so that you can be re-assured that he or she is not just some pervert who wants to see people making love but a true professional who does this for a living. Keep in mind that what he/she will be doing is to record a very private moment between you and your partner so it’s important that you trust him or her on the matter of discreetness.
When meeting the videographer, you should have a good feeling not just about his persona but about his expertise. For instance, ask him about lighting, types of videocams, etc. It’s important that you engage only with a true professional in the field.
It might be tricky to ask for `samples’ or `referrals’ as other people obviously do not want their erotic videos seen by you (and vice versa!) but that does not mean that you cannot ask for contracts. Make sure that there are Non-Disclosure Agreements, Copyright notices and all other safety precautions.
If he’s a professional, he’ll be used to this and in fact, he should already have these standard contracts in place. Basically, protect yourself from having the erotic video leaked and that if he ever does so, you can legally stop him.
Having somebody else videotape your most private moments is very thrilling but that does not mean that you should not be very careful with whom you deal with. However, once you find that person, you’ll see your personal x-rated videos reach a whole new level so do give it a try!

Sex Games for the Outdoors

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:19:10 +0000

Sex games can do wonders for any relationship. They help build trust in one another and help to keep the passion alive for couples. But now that you’ve been engaging in sex games, maybe it’s time to up the heat a bit by doing sex games outside your home.
If you and your partner are up to it, read on and try these sex games meant for outdoor pleasure. Just remember that the basic rules don’t change. Mainly, if one is not comfortable with any of the games, then the other must not pressure him or her to do the sex game. At the same time, read the following sex games with an open mind. You never know what new and exciting thrills they can bring to your relationship until you try them out.
Erotic Sex Games for Outdoor Pleasure
7 Sinful Locations
Get pen and paper; preferably, two different colors of paper. Each of you should have 7 pieces of paper and on these, indicate 7 outdoor locations where you want to make love. For example, you can mention swimming pool, friend’s house, mom and dad’s room, beach, woods, open field, and public restaurant.
Put the 7 locations in a basket or big fishbowl. Every Friday (or any day you guys designate) pick out a new location from the bowl. Of course, it’s assumed that you have somewhat prepared for your set of 7 locations. For example, if one of your sinful locations is the `swimming pool’ and you guys don’t have one, then keep in mind a list of potential other pools you can use so that when this option is pulled out, you guys are ready to go.
HOT Variation Tip #1: To make this game more exciting, have your partner list down her 7 sinful outdoor locations on say white-colored paper, while you list down your 7 sinful lovemaking positions on blue-colored paper. Every Friday, draw out one white and one blue colored paper and bingo! you have one hot sex position to try in a new location!
Auto Erotica
This is a great foreplay sex game that should lead to your lover finding you in a different place in town. If you know that say, every Saturday your partner leaves off to do a weekly chore, be sure to have planted your naughty erotic messages in his/her car the day before.
Hide the clues in the car. About 5 minutes after your lover has been away from home, call him/her and say you have an erotic message for her in the glove compartment or something.
This erotic message should then lead to one message after the other. Your imagination is your only limit here. For example, a friend of mine left messages (in sealed envelopes of course!) at the neighborhood grocer and local bakery for his wife to pickup as she did her weekly grocery shopping to guide her to a motel where he was waiting… naked.
If you plan to do this on a weekday, you can simply leave messages first in his/her car, then in his/her briefcase, and then send an email, etc. The point is to make this a sort of egg hunt game where your partner is led to the prize (read: you) after hints or clues discovered along the way.
HOT Variation Tip #1: Instead of paper clues, you can also just record an audio tape of yourself talking naughty or even dirty to your partner. You then make a CD of this and put it in his/her CD player in the car. In between the naughty talk, guide your lover to your secret location.
The Waiter
You know sometimes you’re so used to your local grocer, baker and even your favorite waiter at your favorite restaurant that you know what they are going to say the minute you walk through the door? Well, for this sex game, you leave the type of lovemaking you will have with your partner to this person.
Here’s a sample scenario, book a table at your favorite local restaurant. Before going to dinner, you and your partner should pre-agree on certain `cause and effect’ scenarios. For example, what’s the first thing that you’re favorite waiter will say when he seats you guys down?
If you say “What would you like to drink?” and the waiter says this, it means you get to feel her under the table.
If your partner says “My, [name of your wife/girlfriend/lover] looks ravishing tonight.” and the waiter says this, it means she gets to handcuff you in bed later.
Make a list of about 5-8 sentences or actions by the waiter and their respective effects on your lovemaking tonight.
Enjoy!

More Bathroom Sex Games for You and Your Partner to Enjoy

moderator — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:57:08 +0000

Not all sex games need to end up in intercourse. Keep in mind that the objective of sex games is to spice up your sexual relationship and if the actual `effect’ takes place immediately afterwards, great. If not, it doesn’t mean that the sex game was not successful. It’s just that the effect takes place later.
Furthermore, no matter how hard we try, sometimes, you (or your partner) are not just in the mood for lovemaking. But that doesn’t mean that you forego sexual playfulness all together! And this is where subtle sex games come into play.
Shower Sex Games to Whet Your Sexual Appetites
The ABCs of Your Anatomy
While relaxing together in the bathtub, why not play the Sexual ABC game? This sex game challenges your knowledge of the human anatomy. The objective of the game is to have your partner work through the alphabet (you’ll be the one dictating the letter and body part!) by gently massaging the various parts of your lover’s body.
For example, for A, you tell your partner to massage your Ankle. For B, tell your partner to massage your Back. If you manage to work from A to Z, then pick your favorite massage and go back to that body part!
Take the Shower Sex Quiz!
At one time, that sexy modern-day goddess known as Angelina Jolie has been quoted as saying that something about being naked in the bathroom makes her free to discuss anything and everything (or something to that effect). So is it the perfect opportunity now to have your lover take a sex quiz while you two are in the shower? Give it a try!
In reality, one or the other always makes fun of sex quizzes but if you know how to read between the lines, there’s always a glimmer of truth somewhere there. So before you get into the bath or shower tonight, browse the Internet for a fun and intriguing sex game that you and your partner can go through. Some fun quizzes can be about erogenous zones, sexual myths, sex positions, or even STD’s!
It’s a great way to know more about your partner and going through a sex positions quiz will help you gauge just how much your partner knows, and/or what he or she is willing to do in that department.
The Sexual Auction
Put together a list of at least 12 romantic or sexual activities. Here’s a sample list: walking together in the park, working out together, oral sex, missionary position, woman on top, sexual massage, foot massage, bathroom sex, doggie style, cooking together, going out on a `date’ (dinner out and watching a movie), and sharing a bath in the tub.
Put the activities you wrote down in a bowl or plastic bucket. Pick out an activity and using either plastic play coins or writing down amounts, make a `secret bid’ for that activity.
For example, she bid $25 for a foot massage, and you bid only $10. This means that she wins the activity from you. The price is then collected at any time.
Sexual Authors
Turn off the lights, burn scented oils and light a dozen or so candles. Play some sensual music and run the bath. (If you don’t have a tub, standing under a warm spay of water is perfectly fine too!)
Now lie back and close your eyes. Start a story, any story about a man and woman hot for each other. Time your story to say 2 minutes. After 2 minutes, your partner must continue the sensual story to whatever turn of events she wants to make. After the 2 minutes, it’s your turn again. I guarantee that you guys will just naturally heat up the story as you go along, each turn making you ant to spell out more and more sexually graphic events.
Here’s a tip: if after some time you guys really get better at your `stories’, record the next time you engage in this sex game and then listen to it either while lovemaking or if your partner is away. It’s a huge turn on!
In addition to sex games not always having to end in lovemaking, note too that not all sex games require a `winner’ and a `loser’, a `prize’ and a `penalty’. Just engage in them wholeheartedly and the game is a reward in itself.

Freeing the Female Orgasm

moderator — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 00:05:13 +0000

Women’s capacity for orgasm is awesome. They can come over and over again, and still be ready for more! This capacity seems almost limitless. They can experience clitoral orgasms, g-spot orgasms, vaginal orgasms, ejaculatory orgasms, blended orgasms, and not only one but multiples of any of these! They’ve even been blessed with a body part, the clitoris, whose only purpose is sexual pleasure. This may all seem a bit unfair to men who typically reach a precipice, fall over the edge, roll over and go to sleep!Why is it then that so many women are frustrated rather than satisfied? Why is it that for so many loving couples, the female orgasm remains an elusive dream; one in which she’s perhaps become resigned to sex that’s pleasurable but not truly satisfying, or even worse, faking it to salvage her partner’s ego. If it is really bad perhaps she fakes orgasm just to get the sexual ordeal over with! Or he sadly wonders: What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I make her come despite stiff fingers and aching tongue? His sexual self-esteem is wounded, and he secretly feels less of a man believing he has failed her.The first step on the path to freeing a woman’s orgasm is for both men and women to understand that men do not give women orgasms. Women allow themselves to have orgasms. Despite popular belief, no matter how good a lover you may be, unless your partner can give herself up to the pleasures of her body, she won’t have orgasms. This realization alone can open the door to women becoming orgasmic. It takes the pressure to “perform” off of men, and it frees women to take responsibility for their own sexual fulfillment.This is very important. If your woman is blaming you, and you may also be blaming yourself for her not having orgasms, it is quite possible, even likely, that you are both looking in the wrong place to solve the problem. Mind you, an unskilled, selfish, or insensitive male lover can be a real problem, and at the very least is certainly a dull bore. And to say that a woman is responsible for her own sexual fulfillment does not mean you revert to a slam-bam-thank-you-ma’am approach to sex and let her fend for herself. After all, the more skilled and attentive a lover is the more pleasure he himself receives, and although you can’t give her an orgasm you certainly can help her to have one, or even lots of them. So even though it’s not entirely up to you, there is something you can do to help.The biggest barrier to orgasm for women is mental distraction – thoughts that float into her mind, catching her in her head, and taking her away from what’s going on in her body. As soon as she starts thinking, she is out of the moment and will lose touch with her senses and her pleasure. Some of these thoughts may trigger feelings of shame or guilt about experiencing sexual pleasure, for no matter how liberated our attitudes toward sex seem to have become, there yet exists the perception that “good” girls don’t! Even today women are divided into categories of “virgin” or “whore”. Those who engage lustily in the delights of the body are somehow morally questionable. You can help your delectable partner move beyond these pleasure stifling attitudes by letting her know how much you respect, admire and cherish her fully female sensual self. Tell her often, especially when you’re making love, that it thoroughly turns you on to see her let loose the passionate side of her nature.This is not always easy for men to do. They may have internalized an unconscious conditioning that leads them to accept the rather misogynist belief that women can’t be good and pure, and also be fantastic lovers. If they believe this, they are placing themselves in a very unfortunate situation. This belief system inevitably leads to the man selecting one woman for a partner, spouse and mother, and a different partner for an affair or mistress. Adultery is about the only option left to a man who holds such a belief system. The resulting deceit and lying force a separation between the couple and the relationship ends soon enough, for example in breaking up or divorce. In this scenario, the man is at fault and the solution does lie with him. Only a change in his beliefs will solve this problem.Sexual abuse is a horror and curse that is unbelievably common in our society. Women that have been sexually abused often have great difficulty in allowing themselves to trust their lover, let go into the sensual moment, and surrender to sexual ecstasy. If your lady is having difficulty experiencing orgasm; if you are a reasonably skilled lover; and if you have communicated to her that you honestly wish her to fully awaken as a sexual partner, then the problem could be some psychological damage from sexual abuse. Ask her about this with the greatest tenderness and caring that you are capable of. Be aware that many women actually blame themselves for their own sexual abuse, so this can be the touchiest of all possible subjects for discussion. If sexual abuse is an issue, it is advisable to encourage her to seek professional counseling or some other form of help.Besides worrying about whether they are “bad” if they really enjoy and want sex “a lot”, many women worry about enjoying sex the right way. They worry about how they look, smell and taste. They worry that the cellulite in their upper thighs or the slight bulge of tummy fat may quiver unattractively. They worry about being “clean down there”. They worry about how long it takes to reach climax, how much time their man has to spend stroking, licking, and caressing to help them fly over the mountain. All of these thoughts take them out of lovemaking. To help her stay in the pleasures of her body tell her with words and sounds and looks that you adore her, you love to devour her with your tongue, you could keep on touching her forever, it’s a delight to you to give her pleasure. And mean it, because if you haven’t learned how to enjoy pleasuring your partner, pretty soon you won’t have one!Once she’s able to relax into the joys of lovemaking and focus on the exquisite sensations her body can feel rather than listening to the demon distractors her mind can conjure up, a woman’s path to orgasm is much clearer. With particular loving skills of your own you can assist her to break that path wide open.Most men enjoy having their genitals touched at any time, whether they’re sexually aroused or not. This isn’t usually the case with women. Think of the vagina as a “potential” opening, a magical door that will happily open wide to receive you, but only after you’ve called ahead to ensure your welcome. Be certain she’s eager for your genital explorations by focusing loving attention on other parts of her body first – lots of kissing, neck nuzzling, tender strokes on back, shoulders and arms, then adoring caresses of her breasts. Only after you sense she’s ready, through signs like rapid breathing, flushed skin, hardened nipples or enticing moans should you move to her vagina. Once your hand or mouth is at her sweet honey pot begin to explore it from the outside inward – outer lips, clitoris, inner lips, vaginal canal.Generally women reach orgasm most easily through clitoral stimulation. The clitoris is extremely sensitive to touch of all kinds. Often the head of the clitoris, the pointed tip, is too sensitive for much direct pressure, so focus your attention on the sides. Touch around the clitoris instead of right on it, at least until her level of excitement increases. The skin tissue of your fingers is not nearly as sensitive as the tissue around her clitoris. But the tissue of your mouth and tongue is an almost perfect match in sensitivity. Unless you are more highly skilled in using your fingers, it is a much safer way to start by using your mouth for oral stimulation of the clitoris. Experiment with different pressures, strokes and speeds. Ask her which ones she likes best. A good way to do this is to try two different touches, then ask her if she likes “a” or “b” better.If she’s willing, invite her to masturbate for you so you can learn exactly how she likes to be touched. Many women are shy to do this at first but with some gentle encouragement she may really show her wanton self. It can be a great turn-on for both of you. Many men are actually quite frightened by a woman who is fully sexually awakened. They may doubt their own ability as a man to keep up, or to be able to perform adequately. They may fear that if she is too much woman sexually for him, that she may go elsewhere and find what she wants. It may help you to overcome this fear if you remember that you are not responsible for giving your lady sexual satisfaction. She must do that for herself. But if this fear is very strong, you may seek counseling help to deal with it.When you do find a particular stroke or caress that is really driving her wild, keep doing it and keep doing it and keep doing it. Don’t change anything about it. Don’t go faster, slower, softer, harder, or switch direction. Keep doing exactly the same thing until she lets you know she wants a change either through words or body movement. This holds true whether you’re pleasuring her clitorally or vaginally with your fingers or your mouth. Keep going even if your hands or mouth get really tired!It’s a good idea to wait until she is very aroused before entering her vagina either with your fingers or your penis. Generally if she’s not wet, she’s not ready. It’s as simple as that. If your lover doesn’t have a lot of natural vaginal juices even when she is fully aroused be sure to use a good silicone or water-based lubricant. Nothing can be a quicker turn-off than rough, dry skin rubbing on soft vaginal tissues. Water-based or silicone lubricant is better because oil can clog the sensitive vaginal tissue.The most sensitive part of a woman’s vaginal canal is the first inch to two inches. It’s here that most of the nerve endings are located, so when you first enter her concentrate most of your attention there. The elusive g-spot can usually be found in this general area, on the top of the vaginal wall, a couple of inches in. Imagine a glass lying on the floor. If you reach your first two fingers into the glass at the top, i.e., toward the ceiling rather than the bottom towards the floor, you should find it. It is difficult to reach the g-spot through intercourse, so you will find it much easier with you fingers than with your penis. There are also some interesting dildos and vibrators with just the right shape to reach the G-spot. Move your index finger or your first two fingers in a “come hither” motion (as if you were asking someone from across the room to come over to where you are) and gently stroke her. When you touch her g-spot you may notice a more bumpy or raised area of skin, but you may not. The best way to know you’ve found this highly intense love spot is by her reaction. Where you look is not quite as important as when you look. Unless she is excited through and through, perhaps from a clitoral orgasm beforehand, it can be difficult to find the g-spot.Stimulation of the g-spot can produce extraordinarily intense orgasms. As a woman is approaching a g-spot orgasm she may feel she has to urinate. This may immediately cause her to tighten up, stop, and pull back from the edge of bliss. If she can stay relaxed and keep going through that “have-to-pee” sensation it will pass and move on into deep waves of sexual delight. The woman should urinate before intercourse begins, so she can be more confident that the feeling that she has to urinate is a misleading feeling and can be safely ignored.For most women it is difficult to reach a climax through intercourse alone. This is because the sensitive clitoris isn’t easily stimulated just by thrusting motions; the g-spot is difficult to reach with even a fully erect penis; and because often the male partner goes over the edge into ejaculatory orgasm before the woman has had enough action to bring her to the heights. If you touch her clitoris before and during intercourse, and if you’ve pleasured her vaginally by touching the g-spot with your fingers, the chances are much better that she will have a deep vaginal orgasm while your penis is inside her.Learn the strokes that turn her on. Tell her how fabulous it is that she’s sensual and sexual. Let her know you adore her body and love to touch and kiss it for hours. Help her forget about trying to make orgasm happen and focus instead on thoroughly enjoying every moment of lovemaking. If you awaken your multi-orgasmic woman you are going to like it!

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more info Visit www.tantra-sex.com, www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com
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2 Stunning Tactics That Will Make a Girl Orgasm! Here is Something Every Man Must Know

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Making love or having sex are by far an essential and exciting activity that healthy couples like to indulge in as it allows you to intimately enjoy each other and experience a tremendous amount of pleasure at the same time. As a man, perhaps you have already discovered the importance of knowing how and being able to make a woman have mind blowing orgasms, as the inability to do so usually means that you will have a lot less sex in your life than you would like. In this article you will discover two stunning tactics that when used either together or by themselves will make a girl orgasm, guaranteed. The key to getting a girl to orgasm is getting her so excited that mentally she is so relaxed and sexually excited that even the most simplest of touches will drive her extraordinarily crazy and sexually aroused. What this means is that before and during any lovemaking session that you have with a woman you want to indulge in a heavy amount of sexual foreplay in order to turn her on and make sure that she is sexually aroused and excited. Once, you know that she is truly excited and ready for the sexual journey to begin the next step you are going to want to do is use the first of 2 stunning tactics that will make a girl orgasm. Stunning Tactic #1 To Make A Woman Orgasm Simply put, you are going to want to have a quality female arousal cream or gel like G Female Stimulating Gel to apply underneath the hood of her clitoris to intensify the sexual sensations that she will feel. Once you apply the G Female Stimulating Gel you are going to want to continue to stimulate her clitoris using either your fingers or through a variety of different oral sex techniques until she has her first orgasm. After you have given her this first intense orgasm you are going to want to pull back from the heavy clitoral stimulation and move back into more sexual foreplay activities allowing her to recover from this first intense orgasm in a way that will still have her highly aroused. Once, you have given her enough time to recover you are now ready to move on to the second rather stunning way of getting a girl to orgasm. Stunning Tactic #2 To Make A Woman Orgasm The second stunning way to make a girl orgasm is actually the easiest and most powerful way to make her climax as long as you are open to the idea of using a sex toy during your lovemaking activities. This second technique involves you using a We-Vibe personal massager and vibrator which is the only sex toy designed to stimulate both her clitoris and G-Spot at the same time that can also be used during any lovemaking activities. Of course, the secret to getting her to have some rather powerful orgasms in this manner is any having sexual intercourse with her in your favorite sexual positions. What this does is give her the soon to be rather common sexual experience of having her G-Spot, clitoris, and entire body stimulated at the same time while also feeling the fullness and firmness of you inside her. When done correctly, especially after making sure she had at least one mind blowing clitoral orgasm beforehand you are guaranteed to send her over the edge in sexual bliss.

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How to Play the Wet Wheel of Fortune

moderator — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 12:06:42 +0000

Have you ever seen the TV show the Wheel of Fortune? Well, this sex game is a sexy and naughty deviation of that TV game show. It’s a great way to engage in various lovemaking positions with your partner. And as such, it takes away a lot of the routine and boredom you guys may be experiencing inside the bedroom.
The Sexy and Wet Wheel of Fortune
These are the things you need to keep in mind to ensure a great Wet Wheel of Fortune experience.
Perfect, romantic bathroom or shower setting.
Prepare the bathtub if you have one; if not, a shower stall is great as well. Dim the lights, play some romantic music, and light some scented candles. This sex game may take a while so brining in some drinks (wine, champagne) and some food items (cheese, crackers, grapes) is not a bad idea.
Get in the right mood and frame of mind.
Like any sex game, it really won’t work if you just, you know, get on with it. Remember that the brain in the biggest sex muscle of all so you need to stimulate that first. So start with a relaxing shower together or give your partner a sensual bath massage. Just when your lover is a bit primed, engage in some heavy foreplay. This is necessary because the actual Sex Wheel of Fortune is based more on sexual positions.
The Wet Wheel of Fortune board!
This type of sex game paraphernalia can be bought in sex games. They come complete with suction cups too so you can easily attach them against the wall or on the glass of your shower stall. (Of course, you can also create your own.)
When buying one try to find that has two wheels on it; one that tells time (30 seconds, 3 minutes, 10 minutes, etc.) and one that indicates a photo of the sex position. Wherever the wheel stops, you guys must do whatever the image indicates for the time period the second wheel says!
Admittedly, there are some limitations to what sex positions a couple can engage in inside a shower stall or inside a bathtub so here’s a quick rundown for you.
- Woman on top. That’s right. Just lie down in the rub and let the water embrace you as she gets on top and does her thing.
Standing doggy style. This is just the classic `from behind’ move but in this scenario, both of you are standing up. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
- Bent doggy style. This is just the classic `from behind’ move but in this scenario, you’re standing up while she bends and braces herself against the bathroom wall. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
- Hanging lotus. In this lovemaking position, you guys are face-to-face. You’re standing up while her arms embrace your neck, and her legs wrap around your torso. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must again!) And yes, you need stamina for this move!
On the counter. In this lovemaking position, you move out of the bathtub and/or shower stall and place her, sitting, on top of the bathroom counter. You get the added bonus of making love to her while watching yourself in the bathroom mirror!
In this sex game there are no losers only sexual pleasures!
How to Make the Wet Wheel of Fortune More Exciting
As if this sex game is not hot enough, there are still some things you can add or incorporate to tweak this sex game more to your liking. Here are some ideas.
Don’t just have images of lovemaking positions; add foreplay and/or genitalia images as well. For instance, if the arrow on the wheel lands on say, his genitalia, and on the time 30 seconds, then she gets to do whatever she wants to do on that body part (and vice versa of course).
If, for some reason, one is not able to carry out the activity for the said amount of time, there is a penalty. This penalty can be in the form of missing a turn to spin the wheel to being `limited’ in one way or the other. For example, one of his or her writs can be handcuffed to something to limit movement. A blindfold can also be used, inhibiting sight as well as making the search for the `target’ much more exciting!