Western cultures somehow got the notion that all sex was bad and dirty, even extending that belief into the marriage bed and in some religious circles sex is considered a necessary evil for the propagation of the human family. A careful reading of the Biblical text clearly reveals that men and women are meant to be joined together both spiritually and physically and that men are to covet their own wife (as opposed to the their neighbor’s wife) and to lust after her (while lusting after a woman other than her is a form of adultery) and God has ordained the natural state of a woman is to be with a man and a man with a woman in marriage and to have joy in each other.

A lack of training in the sexual arts and a sense of taboo has created a void and allowed the pornography industry to step in to fill the need for erotic knowledge. Unfortunately this includes glamorizing promiscuousness, objectifying women, unrealistically portraying sex, and glorifying unnatural practices.

That being said, for good or ill, one has to recognize that pornography has influenced our sexual expectations and practices. So why not learn what we can from it and use it to our advantage? You don’t have to be a porn star to uh…frolic like one.

Sex skills every woman should have and use frequently to keep the home fires burning bright:

1. Passionate Kissing – Know how to kiss and be kissed passionately. Add some through the clothes and under the clothes fondling.

2. Oral Sex Skills – Oral sex can be used on a man for many purposes other than bringing him to orgasm. Learn and use this skill to add variety and spice to you intimacy. Use it to prolong and increase the intensity of your lovemaking.

Learning how to orally pleasure your man has advantages for both of you.

3. Hand Job Skills – Hand job skills go hand in hand (penis in hand?) with oral sex skills. If a woman is not quite comfortable with having her man’s penis in her mouth she can use her hands quite effectively for many of the same purposes as previously mentioned in Oral Sex Skills. Do what YOU feel most comfortable with.

4. Don’t Be Boring in Bed – Change Your Position. Be familiar with several sexual positions and participate in their use. Change your position once or twice during your lovemaking sessions. You don’t have to abandon your favorite position, just try something different for a little while just for fun. Then go back to your old favorite. You may just discover a new favorite position.

5. Don’t Be Boring in Bed – Change Your Location. I don’t mean go to some exotic location; I mean get out of bed and do it somewhere else

6. Change It Up a Little and End Routine Sex. Small changes can have a big impact. Add candles, change the time of day, etc.

7. Be Sexually Adventurous – If you think you are too old, too fat, too married, too ______ to do something like wear crotchless panties or a shelf bra or use a vibrator; do it any way just for fun. It won’t make you older, fatter or more or less married or more ______. And it just may make you feel younger, get motivated to take care of your body better, make you laugh or give you a smile.

Doing a few small things differently can add huge increases in excitement to your passion.

8. Learn how to control and flex your vaginal muscles. This requires regular practice, but you will both be glad you made the effort for years to come (literally). Not only will you never need to fake an orgasm, you can to blow his mind and surprise him with the Velvet Grip Technique.

You don’t have to look like a porn star or be one to uh… frolic like one. I think most men would agree. They would rather have an enthusiastic real woman in their bed, someone they can touch, feel and share real pleasure with, than watch some over-acting faking it starlet on a screen.

Did you know that a lot of women can reach the big “O” simply through oral sex?  Although orgasms can be given when you have sex, there are many ways to prolong a woman’s orgasm or even give her multiple orgasms – which can be achieved if you’re adept at giving cunnilingus. Tips & Techniques for Cunnilingus that Will Keep Her Wanting More! Now, here are a variety of ways that you can perform cunnilingus to keep your woman begging for more:

- Remember that the number one trick to pleasing a woman and bring her to a huge orgasm is by being sensitive to her needs in bed.  For example, if your lover is a woman who’s not afraid to speak her mind out – even in bed – you can probably indulge in some sexy or downright dirty talk while you’re going down on her to keep her begging for more. On the other hand, if your lover is somewhat shy in bed, you can slowly ease her into oral pleasure by smelling, licking and sucking her love juices right off of your finger and gently tell her how wonderful she tastes. She’ll warm her way through it and who knows – she might even be hot enough to return the favor!- You should familiarize yourself with parts of a woman’s nether regions so that you would know how to proceed. The magic button is actually the clit, that small knob of pink flesh located at the upper juncture of her vaginal lips.  When performing cunnilingus, don’t target the clit right away because it is utterly sensitive.  – Take the time to lick her like an ice cream cone using the flat of your tongue to stimulate the nerves in the vaginal area. Gradually build up the intensity, use gentle suctions and insert two fingers in her vagina once you see that she’s really into it. With these cunnilingus tips and techniques, you’ll have any woman begging for more, marveling about your masterful skills in bed!

You’re not alone.

Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also kill the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place.

Michael Webb, author of the best selling THE ROMANTIC’S GUIDE,  has said, “If you’re shy or embarrassed and even if you’ve tried everything but failed miserably — anybody can add more fire to the bedroom!” 

Here are five really simple ways to make your lovemaking more hot, steamy and passionate — (Even starting tonight):

1. Find your partner’s hidden zones…

I call these hidden zones because many people do not realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention.

While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, breasts, inner thighs and genitals, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

2. Set a romantic mood…

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is too cliche. Are they kidding! Your partner will LOVE YOU for this.

Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so cliche because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

3. Give them a sensual massage…

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable.

Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition under the sheets where a massage of another kind can take place.

And no, you do not need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget.

4. Please your partner with more oral sex…

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it is great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who cannot reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it is an important part of foreplay. Here are some tips for both men and women.

LADIES: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straight away when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

GENTLEMAN: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

5. Constantly explore and try new things…

If I could only give you one piece of advice for better lovemaking, it would be this: become adventurous and creative.

Nothing is stopping you from red-hot passion except your level of creativity. Try a new position, do it somewhere new, or spice up your foreplay with a game.

Let’s face it, the basic act of lovemaking, no matter how hard you try, is always kiss and thrust, but it is HOW you do it and the way you make your partner feel that really counts.

By dedicating time to finding new things, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

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Honey is a natural antiseptic so there’s no need to worry about injuring yourself and it adds a certain tackiness which can prove very exciting when/if you go on to have full intercourse. In fact, honey is the perfect choice if you’re having problems with over-lubrication or if you simply feel you’d like a little more resistance. Runny honey works best but it’s up to you to experiment. And if you’re the fussy sort make sure you keep it away from your best sheets/sofa/carpet – this kind of sexy fun can get seriously messy!