Western cultures somehow got the notion that all sex was bad and dirty, even extending that belief into the marriage bed and in some religious circles sex is considered a necessary evil for the propagation of the human family. A careful reading of the Biblical text clearly reveals that men and women are meant to be joined together both spiritually and physically and that men are to covet their own wife (as opposed to the their neighbor’s wife) and to lust after her (while lusting after a woman other than her is a form of adultery) and God has ordained the natural state of a woman is to be with a man and a man with a woman in marriage and to have joy in each other.

A lack of training in the sexual arts and a sense of taboo has created a void and allowed the pornography industry to step in to fill the need for erotic knowledge. Unfortunately this includes glamorizing promiscuousness, objectifying women, unrealistically portraying sex, and glorifying unnatural practices.

That being said, for good or ill, one has to recognize that pornography has influenced our sexual expectations and practices. So why not learn what we can from it and use it to our advantage? You don’t have to be a porn star to uh…frolic like one.

Sex skills every woman should have and use frequently to keep the home fires burning bright:

1. Passionate Kissing – Know how to kiss and be kissed passionately. Add some through the clothes and under the clothes fondling.

2. Oral Sex Skills – Oral sex can be used on a man for many purposes other than bringing him to orgasm. Learn and use this skill to add variety and spice to you intimacy. Use it to prolong and increase the intensity of your lovemaking.

Learning how to orally pleasure your man has advantages for both of you.

3. Hand Job Skills – Hand job skills go hand in hand (penis in hand?) with oral sex skills. If a woman is not quite comfortable with having her man’s penis in her mouth she can use her hands quite effectively for many of the same purposes as previously mentioned in Oral Sex Skills. Do what YOU feel most comfortable with.

4. Don’t Be Boring in Bed – Change Your Position. Be familiar with several sexual positions and participate in their use. Change your position once or twice during your lovemaking sessions. You don’t have to abandon your favorite position, just try something different for a little while just for fun. Then go back to your old favorite. You may just discover a new favorite position.

5. Don’t Be Boring in Bed – Change Your Location. I don’t mean go to some exotic location; I mean get out of bed and do it somewhere else

6. Change It Up a Little and End Routine Sex. Small changes can have a big impact. Add candles, change the time of day, etc.

7. Be Sexually Adventurous – If you think you are too old, too fat, too married, too ______ to do something like wear crotchless panties or a shelf bra or use a vibrator; do it any way just for fun. It won’t make you older, fatter or more or less married or more ______. And it just may make you feel younger, get motivated to take care of your body better, make you laugh or give you a smile.

Doing a few small things differently can add huge increases in excitement to your passion.

8. Learn how to control and flex your vaginal muscles. This requires regular practice, but you will both be glad you made the effort for years to come (literally). Not only will you never need to fake an orgasm, you can to blow his mind and surprise him with the Velvet Grip Technique.

You don’t have to look like a porn star or be one to uh… frolic like one. I think most men would agree. They would rather have an enthusiastic real woman in their bed, someone they can touch, feel and share real pleasure with, than watch some over-acting faking it starlet on a screen.