Although you may think you are in touch with the natural instinctive sexual force that resides within, I beg to differ. You are and have been merely tapping the surface. {Scratching on the window pane} A boiling bubbling explosive volcanic eruption in artistic creative libido lies at the base of your frustration and unrest. Much more unfulfilled, unrefined, savagely induced “ART” impetus lies buried than you are currently aware of. Under the iceberg of discontent, passion moves in undulating waves of subtle unresolved pleasure. This undeniable chaotic sensation can only be experienced, not explained. No explanation will do it justice. You KNOW the feeling of longing and yearning for that which can not be seen or expressed with the five senses. Passion stands alone dismantling all inferior motivations.

Sometimes, on the most bizarre of occasions, and in the rarest of circumstances, it begins to move without your approval, knowledge or consent. Whoa! {Be those RAW occasions.} When the two ‘S’s start to rumble, the “P” begins to solicitously pump, the “A” points it sleeky ‘on target’ antennae, the “O” feels the intoxicating swoon while the “N” slips into go gear, Johnny bar the door. How could anyone possibly remain unmoved? “Behave yourself,” are the last two words it recognizes or responds to. To minutely understand and appreciate the cyclonic starting point of this momentous force can only be explained by returning to our primal roots. We are inherently instinctive savages by nature. We are not refined. We are powerful sexual beings who are electrified lighted magnets. Our personal level of passion depends upon just how much we repress the natural instincts in our lives. In other words, how natural and convenient we are to ourselves and others, leaving out superficial actions. You, me, all are authentic by design! The way in which you choose to express this exquisite authenticity is totally up to you.

The sheer amount of power {motivated sensuality} locked within the word Passion I dare not say. But whether you call it art, music, drama, the written word Passion derives its sacred basis from sex. And, I would say that’s an undoubtedly irresistible force of unequaled unparalleled sizzling sensation that few of us can do without. What does Passion mean to you? Without a moment’s hesitation, you immediately thought of the most thrilling sexual experience you ever encountered. No doubt. SEX is an exclusively erotically created subjective form of Passion imbued with artistic flavor, musical tones, dramatic interludes and spoken ecstasies. Which by the way, is the inexplicable reason why Passion means so many things to so many people. Passion is a decidedly regulated enjoyable practice we all undertake at one time or another by an act of will. ENTHUSIASM is generated by sexual Passion!

We realize without the statement, thereof, that the act of lovemaking is the ultimate creative act of divinity. When engaged in lovemaking, one is seeking the sublime ineffable source. The creation, application, presentation, revelation, and preservation of Passion are the starved elements of a lost art to be rekindled. Sensual Passion and the study thereof belong to all mankind. Passion makes your heart throb and your bottom bob! It is the essence of talent, ability, potential and inborn gifts of sacred decreed measure. Countless wars have been lost and won based upon the ardent pursuit of Passion. Sexual instinct substantiates Passion. No one person possesses a monopoly of talent for or the lack of ability to generate it. Everyone is a sexually imbued passionately motivated inspired creative artist in his own right. You possess a distinctive ‘feature’ that makes you who you are because of the Passion you alone possess. No one else can do what you can do in the exact same way you do it. You have things to do. Great things. It will take all of your self-generating sexually ignited Passion you possess to fulfill those desires.

The vital importance of your artistic contribution to mankind can not be overstated. You have a supreme gift which should be redeemed, recognized and recorded for its own sake. You are currently residing on Earth, not by accident, but for a specifically designated divine disguised purpose. That unique purpose, hidden in you, along with your sensually evoked energetic presence will not go unnoticed. Your life’s story will be told and demonstrated through immense artistic contribution. You represent immeasurable value and laudable merit in the Cosmic divine scheme of things. It’s all a matter of coming to that place where we all can appreciate the sacred messages hidden behind and beyond the unlikely artistic representations. Cosmic in nature, the therapeutic niche, where assumptions are forfeited and predilections are unheard of. Preferences must be discarded for the sake of the indisputable truth of the divine essence to be released freely. {To set free the soul’s captive to follow and embrace unconcerned united course of your chosen destiny.}

Ecstatic Passion encases a temporary form (flesh) for all to behold and interact, vibrating at levels that bring immeasurable pleasure. Bottom line: It is you telling the part of your Passion’s story through your individual creations. PASSION: the healing art of your own personal Cosmic Therapy. Your individually conceived vision, no matter how poorly constructed or elaborately devised, is but a whiff of the exhilarating aroma that points to something spectacular in motion. Through each man’s PASSION, we are allowed the opportunity to expand our horizons. From beginning to end, we are privy to the see into and through the eyes of the rare experiences of the multitudes of unnamed and unnumbered artists.

By using the principles offered through our own self-motivated Passion, we may come to really appreciate, value, and honor the stroke of our own and the other’s exclusive mark. We join with the divine to create what we WILL. Our rigid minds are encouraged to extract, diminish, and explode the outdated molds of habit and status quo, breaking down the prejudiced and selective barriers we maintain. We become fully present when we stop to contemplate the suppleness of each man’s divine purpose demonstrated in his artistic work. If we would but stop long enough to acknowledge divinity’s presence in the ordinary things, we would open ourselves to receive and participate in a life filled to overflowing zeal and unending enthusiasm. An emblematic artistic merging occurs as the onlooker is allowed to ingest the vision of grandeur so wittily covered up. A unified process of celestial osmosis occurs blending the effervescent stream of artistic delight. A reassuring feeling of comprehension takes hold as we, the viewer, along with the other artists embrace the interconnectivity revealed in all things. We stand in humble appreciation as we are reverently permitted to blend with all of creation in the cohesive whole, while gazing into another’s work, instead of breaking them into fragmented biased pieces. We are allowed to declare and celebrate the realization that the artistic work of the man in prison or the homeless man on the street or the crack addict, etc. is endowed with the same sacred magnificence. There are no distinctions, nor sexual preferences.

Passion is the truest reflection of what mankind is attracted to. He/she displays it in panoramic views that interest him the most. Passion manifests as the result of an unquenchable thirst to answer a deeply held mystery of some sort. It could be as simple as why a marriage ended or what to do with a jealousy issue you’ve not been able to resolve. In our mundane artistic daily walks, we are learning how to get over greed, resentment, guilt, bitterness, remorse and a million other human traits. We use our art to exploit these things in us! Sacred Sexuality will not be deterred. If one chooses to release and engage his/her Passion he/she is voluntarily acknowledging that he wants the inner vault of truth to be retrieved and the contents exposed no matter what!

1. Find out what music your lover likes, and play it.

2. Sing to each other, especially if you can’t sing. Listen to a song that turns you on and write the words out so you will remember them. Then without any music sing that song as a surprise gift to your lover. Watch the tears come to their eyes.

3. Find out what scents your lover likes, e.g., perfumes and especially essential oils. Get an essential oil diffuser.

4. Wear the clothes your lover likes. Try something wild in latex.

5. Serve the food your lover likes.

6. Select locations for lovemaking that your partner likes.

7. Prepare yourself for stimulating conversation. Do some homework if necessary to have something interesting to talk about.

8. Give lots of compliments on a regular basis.

9. Compliment you lover in front of others.

10. Tell each other all the things you like and appreciate about each other. Do this every day.

11. Show your body to your lover. Let them look as long as they like.

12. Take your clothes off while your lover watches.

13. Tease your partner with partial nudity at unexpected times, like when your mother or children are in the other room. Be artful and naughty about it so only your lover sees you.

14. Explore each other’s bodies with your eyes, hands and tongues.

15. Hold a mirror for your partner to look at their own genitals.

16. Women, touch your lover’s genitals with sighs of desire from time to time, even when out in public (discretely).

17. Men, nibble on your partner’s neck with sighs of desire from time to time, even when out in public.

18. Give each other a sensual massage. Try short 5 minute full body massages on a daily basis, as well as longer versions (one hour or longer) when time permits. Use an exotic massage oil. You can mix some yourself with an excellent essential oil in a base of first cold press grapeseed (canola) oil.

19. Create a temple-of-love space in anticipation of your lovemaking. Make your space beautiful. Keep it simple.

20. Create your own rituals & ceremonies. Keep it simple.

21. Tell each other what turns you on. If they don’t know they can’t give it to you.

22. Read and/or write erotic poetry and stories.

23. Watch erotic, romantic movies and videos.

24. Take a bath or shower together. Even small tubs are great fun. Make a mess.

25. Wash each other’s bodies. Be kind and gentle and provocative, or raucous and wild, whatever you’re both into.

26. Wash each other’s feet. Use a small dishpan and some wonderful natural soap. Rub on an aromatic foot lotion.

27. Suck on your partner’s squeaky-clean toes.

28. Feed each other food and drink. Use your fingers. Make a mess.

29. Read stories out loud to each other.

30. Wear costumes and masks as part of your foreplay. Oooh, mystery!

31. Tie each other up. Men especially love to be tied up.

32. Paint each other’s bodies. Use washable/edible body paint or chocolate sauce you make yourself or buy.

33. Wash each other’s hair.

34. Give each other pedicures.

35. Prepare sensual meals together. Fondle and tease each other as you work/play.

36. Watch the sun come up or go down, or the moon go across the water.

37. Lie out under the stars. Sleep out under the stars.

38. Make flower arrangements together, fresh or dried.

39. Send each other erotic post cards without any special occasion.

40. Write love letters to each other.

41. Say the words “I love you. I need you. I want you.”

42. Whisper words of adoration in your lover’s ears before, during and after love making.

43. Talk “dirty” in your lover’s ears in the heat of passion during your lovemaking.

44. Hold hands in public.

45. Go on picnics.

46. Call each other by “sucky” pet names.

47. Make foreplay go on and on and on and on and….

48. Men, help your woman come to orgasm before intercourse – at least some times!

49. Men, be sure she is wet, before you put your golden rod into her fig pocket!

50. Romance each other for hours, with intercourse on and off the whole time. Men, learn to delay ejaculation!

51. Cuddle after intercourse. Look into each other’s eyes. Say words of love and adoration. Thank the God and Goddess for their favors.

52. Cry in front of each other.

53. Share what you are feeling. Risk being vulnerable.

54. Try different lovemaking positions. Experiment.

55. Try different lovemaking locations. Experiment.

56. Use love toys. Experiment.

57. Laugh during intercourse. Laugh before intercourse. Laugh after intercourse.

58. Offer unexpected gifts. Keep it simple, but thoughtful. Pick the right thing, not the biggest or most expensive thing.

59. Remember special occasions. Special occasions should be special!

60. Say please and thank you for sexual favors and for many small things each day. “Whether the pretty woman grants or withholds her favors, she always likes to be asked for them.” Ovid

61. Surprise your lover with the unexpected. Experiment.

62. Try something new. Experiment.

63. Try something dangerous. Experiment.

64. Try something outrageous. Experiment.

65. Try something kinky. Experiment.

66. Try something you are afraid of. Experiment.

67. Try something forbidden. Experiment.

68. Share your fantasies. Act them out with each other. Don’t ever share fantasies about someone else with your lover!

69. Masturbate each other.

70. Masturbate in front of each other.

71. Dress up for a romantic dinner.

72. Eat dinner by candlelight.

73. Make love by candlelight.

74. Put on little skits (acts) for each other. Experiment.

75. Be foolish and playful. Experiment.

76. Drop something that is really important for you to do, and make love instead.

77. Call when you are away and say “I miss you terribly. I can’t wait to get home to hold you.”

78. Talk “dirty” over the phone to each other.

79. Shop for sex toys and lingerie together.

80. Ladies, wear garter belt and stockings instead of pantyhose.

81. Put blindfolds on each other during foreplay and intercourse, sometimes.

82. Role play: innocent high school student, slut, nurse, stripper, master, slave, bad boy or girl, etc.

83. Look into each other’s eyes, if possible until tears follow the opening of your heart in love.

84. Match the rhythm of your breathing during lovemaking.

85. Take rapid breaths to heat up your excitement.

86. Take long, deep, slow breaths to maintain a high level of excitement without going over into orgasm. Prolonging the orgasmic excitement leads to ecstasy.

87. Just hold each other.

88. Talk where one only listens. The one who listens does not try to take any responsibility, does not try to intervene or “fix” anything. Just listen. This is harder to do than it sounds.

89. Give each other a 10-second kiss when coming and going.

90. Make out like high school kids, without intercourse.

91. Practice Tantra Sacred Sex muscle control, breathing and visualization together. If you don’t know how, take a workshop together.

92. Give each other flowers regularly. Men love to receive flowers too!

93. Have fresh flowers around as often as possible.

94. Have lots of green healthy plants in the house.

95. Notice all the little things you do for each other, that you regularly take for granted, and let each other know how important they are to you. Show your appreciation.

96. Spend time remembering wondrous past experiences together when you were happy and joyous.

97. Take turns leading when dancing slow.

98. In conversation always use loving names when referring to your genitals, e.g., jade stalk, wand of light, mystery cave, succulent flower, etc.

99. Make plans for the future.

100. Talk about spending the rest of your life together.

101. Write out your vision for the kind of relationship you want to create together.

102. Display your relationship vision/dream where you will see it often.

103. Serve each other breakfast in bed.

104. Sleep together NAKED! Curl around each other like spoons. Roll over together to change positions in the night.

105. In the morning when you wake up lying naked together, the man goes between the woman’s legs. If he is not aroused, he will use the soft entry by wetting his penis with saliva (or any suitable lubricant such as water based or silicone lubricants, or any cooking oil) and inserting it into her vagina. Lie still with your eyes open and match your breathing for 2-5 minutes.

Remember at the beginning of your relation how strong was the desire you felt one for another ? How a single look, a simple move would make you shiver ? There is a word for that : passion.

Today ? Like 99% of lovers living together, as years pass, passion starts to decline. Routine slowly but surely, like a deadly virus, takes it’s place and can ruin your couple.

Wow, what a terrible scene ! Let’s get rid of it immediately.

The positive thing is you want to see your love life improving, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article right ? So follow me and be sure to apply what is written here. There’s nothing better than concrete when it comes to sex. 1. Have a look !

Are you still looking one at each other ? That’s a simple advice hey ? Now think about it. Do you have these little stars sparkling in your eyes when you gently cover your partner’s whole body from head to toes ? Do you mind if I cough ? Take the test ! I insist you have to be romantic in everything you do. It’s useless trying to seduce if you act like a beast. It can be truly exciting but at this point your couple needs softness. So, you’re both reading in the sofa (nice books but wouldn’t it be great to have some sex on the same sofa ?) Take your eyes off the book and look at your other “half”, slowly, very slowly. Start with the head, lips included, and calmly lower your eyes. Neck, shoulders, upper arms, breast, tummy, sex, thighs, hands, legs, feet… No matter what happens. Just do it. She’s in the kitchen, look at her. He’s watching tv, gaze. Remember, slowly, gently with tenderness in the eyes. Opening a little your lips would also be a good idea. Doing this in public places (when having a coffee for example) is also terribly exciting…

ok, on to step 2.2. Speaking is great too.

Use the power of words. A couple of blunt sentences whispered at the other’s ears.

Imagine having dinner with friends. Your lover approaches and says “I’m so hot I want you now.”

She’s so close you can feel her tensed breast. He’s so excited, you can see his sex growing. And please, don’t stop looking. (check tip number1 above). Use words. The more they are unexpected, the more exciting they will be. Phone calls are fantastic. Whether at home or at the office, if you start a hot conversation, you’ll see how amazing the effect will be. You will go wild !3. Writing

A Love letter is fine. If it contains erotic words, you multiply it’s power by 1000. Now how should you deliver the letter ? You can put it on the bed, or, if you can make it, send her the letter, privately, at work, using a courrier. Everything is fine as long as it’s unusual. Something like “hey, I wrote this letter for you, here it is” should be avoided. You’re special, your partner is too, so do something special. (and exciting)4. Romantism

Restaurant, Flowers and Lingerie are my favorite.

So this number 4 is probably for you gentlemen. Buy lingerie online if you feel shy but the most exciting thing to do is buying lingerie together. Imagine what could happen in the fitting room…

Send her flowers and invite her for a great dinner. The restaurant can become a magic place for erotic games. Ask her to discreetly take her lingerie off. And both eat as if you were eating the other’s body, with sensuality.

Wow it’s getting hot in here.5. Take your camera

ho, ho, ho. That’s terribly exciting. Whether you want to take pictures or create your own erotic movie, acting in front of your private camera can be fantastic. Remember : sensuality. If you’re a woman, why not film or take shots of yourself and let your lover watch them when he comes home. Your mobile phone can be extremely useful. Take the movie and send him (or her), stripping & caressing. There are numerous ways of playing exciting games with your image.

Ok that’s it for today. I hope you’re as excited as I was when writing this article. 6. A last suggestion.

You will find many exciting tips and advices at Michael Webb’s Lovemaking Site. He was featured in media countless times. From CBS to the Oprah show. Take a look, you’ll learn a lot.

Thanks for reading.

Stay tuned for other tips.

And after you applied them, keep me updated !

To your Sexual Success !

Christophe Tissier