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What is Oral Sex?

moderator — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 05:54:36 +0000

Oral sex pertains to a range of sexual activities that involve your mouth, lips, tongue, throat and even teeth to sexually stimulate your partner’s sex organs. Oral sex goes by many fancy names: it’s cunnilingus when it’s oral sex done on females; fellatio when its oral sex done on males; and analingus when it’s oral sex performed on a man or woman’s anus.
Cunnilingus is derived from the Latin words cunnus and lingua, which mean vulva and tongue, respectively. Fellatio, on the other hand, comes from the Latin word fell?re, which means to suck.
Oral sex is usually viewed as an essential part of foreplay but it’s of course also a way to bring your sex partner to a wonderful climax.
As we have covered cunnilingus already a couple of months back, it’s time for the boys to get their turn don’t you think? For this reason, we’ll cover the art of fellatio in this article and the succeeding others.
Before you start, why don’t you grab your partner and read these fellatio articles together? This way, she can learn the many mind-blowing ways she can pleasure you even before you guys engage in intercourse.
Why Oral Sex for Him Rocks
The ’she submits, he rules’ mentality. Throughout time and various cultures, oral sex for him has always been regarded as just another way for men to show their dominion over women. First, consider the standard position: he stands up, or sits down, or lies pleasantly on his back, while she kneels, bows her head and pleasures him.
Today, there’s still a bit of truth behind this mentality. Admit it. Isn’t it a tremendous ego boost for you if you see your woman go down on you and start pleasuring you in s somewhat submissive position? Of course it is!
It’s all about visual cues. Going away from the submission and dominion route, another reason why fellatio is great for your sex lives is because as we all know by now, men are such visual creatures.
In fact, just take a second to consider this: sure, men may close their eyes and be in complete rapture as their women perform oral sex on them. However, often enough, men actually keep their eyes open and watch as their partners perform fellatio on them. This is because seeing their woman perform oral sex on them is as much of a turn on as the deed itself.
Oral sex for him is a great sexual alternative. If your partner is at the latter stages of pregnancy, then chances are, she may not want to engage in intercourse. As a result, this can leave you very sexually frustrated. Hmmm, a sexually frustrated man and a very pregnant woman – you can see that this can easily be the route of many relationship fights.
With fellatio, however, you can still enjoy the pleasures of climax without necessarily forcing your partner with intercourse. As to whether she should swallow or not, that is really more of a personal preference and not related to your partner being pregnant or not.
Still, in the old and unenlightened times, there was actually a myth that swallowing semen is bad for a pregnant woman. That myth has long been busted as studies show that the chemical composition of semen can actually be healthy for pregnant women!
Fellatio can be a great, yet naughty way to spice up your relationship. For many couples, there soon comes a time when intercourse becomes boring and routine. One great way to increase sexual tension in your relationship is to engage in oral sex a lot. By this I don’t only mean for foreplay. Why not have nights when you deliberately do not have intercourse at all?
That may sound crazy but consider this: by just concentrating on oral sex, you can find or even develop other ways to ingeniously pleasure each other without penetration. And yet you guys STILL get to climax! It’s a win-win situation really.
Oral sex for HIM is healthy for HER. In a 2003 study by the North Carolina State University on 15,000 women, they found out that those who performed fellatio regularly (once or twice per week) showed a reduced risk for breast cancer of about 40%! Although the study has yet to discover why exactly, the study does show that there’s a link between the two.
There you have it. All the good reasons to go down on him tonight!

Gabrielle Moore is owner of The http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com” rel=”nofollow”>Female Orgasm Revealed, a site to help men please their female partners with an orgasm every time. For more information, go to: http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com
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Sex Games for the More Daring – Part 2

moderator — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 05:54:56 +0000

One of the reasons to include sex games in your relationship is to increase excitement and to remove boredom or prevent anything in your relationship from reaching `routine status’. As such, you should always be on the lookout for more, new and exciting sex games to try with your lover. And for that you need not go far, simply read on and see which one you want to try tonight, and which ones you want to save for later.
Daring Sex Games to Push Excitement and Intimacy to the Next Level
HONEY, I LIKE SPORTS TOO
Sports and sex: what a lethal combination! If your partner is one who’s not into sports as you are, then this sex game is a great way for her to take part in your love for the sport too. Start by agreeing on a sport that you both will watch. Assign different teams to each other.
List down several sexual activities: each one increasing in naughtiness and heat level as the last. Watch the game together and list down each team’s scores. At the end of the game, the team/partner with the highest score wins! The loser needs to carry out ALL of the sexual activities listed by the winner.
HOT Variation Tip # 1: Instead of waiting for the game to end, cash in your points each time your team scores something.
HOT Variation Tip # 2: Carry out this sex game while having family and friends over! During each break, sneak off to the bedroom or bathroom and start collecting your winning points!
FIND YOUR PLEASURE
List down the Top 5 things that you know your lover just absolutely loves you performing on her. Don’t be shy to list down things that really make her crazy and shout! Turn these things into five sex coupons and hide it in different places of your bedroom. Tonight, tell her that she needs to go on a massive sex coupon hunt.
As she searches in the room, say if she’s `hotter’ or `colder’ as she comes close or far to a sex coupon. Whatever coupon she finds, you must do the deed listed on the coupon!
HOT Variation Tip # 1: Use a timer and set this to 30 seconds or 1 minute. Your partner should find as many sex coupons as she can in that time. Whatever she finds, you must do whatever’s listed on the coupons found.
HOT Variation Tip # 2: Don’t list various sexual activities on the coupons, list down sex positions instead. Another tip is not to indicate this in words but in pictures. Cut out (or download from the internet and print out) some really hot sex positions and paste this on the sex coupons.
TRUTH OR DARE
This is a sexualized version of this popular game. Tonight, make sure you’re alone at home. After a nice, sexy, romantic dinner, turn down the lights, light some scented candles and play some soft, sexy music.
Take of all your clothes and sit across each other on the floor or bed, and then play the traditional Turn or Dare game. This time, however, only questions concerning sexual activities are allowed. Use this opportunity to really know your lover and help her bring out your sexual fantasies to life. For example, you can ask questions like “what public place would really like to try and have sex?”, “what sexual fantasy do you want to try tonight”?
BLINDFOLD ME
In this sex game, you’re blindfolded by your lover and she gets to put some lotion or scented oil all over your body. (Stuff like chocolate, honey, or whipped cream is also allowed.) She then starts to touch a part of your body with something (a feather, cotton ball, her tongue, etc.) and then you have to guess what she’s using to touch you. If you guess correctly, you can demand a sexual activity from her. If you guess wrong, she gets to ask a sexual activity from you.
THE ONE-NIGHT STAND
Role-playing is very much a part of many sex games. It’s a great way to break down any shyness on your or her part because a part of you thinks that it’s not really you engaging in that sexual act anyway. One favorite sex game of many couples is to role-play the one nigh stand affair.
Don’t plan this one. Just email, call or send a message to your partner that you plan to eat out tonight and if he/she can meet you at this pub or bar later. (You can decide to meet at a real sleazy bar.) Don’t give anything else away.
Once you meet at the pub, act like you’re someone else and try to `pick her up’ from the bar. If she’s game, she’ll easily pick up your hints and play along. Now, move on and DON’T go home. Go to a motel or hotel room and do the deed!

Gabrielle Moore is the co-author of The http://www.thegspotcode.com “>G Spot Code. It teaches men how to please women with G Spot orgasms every time. For more information, go to: http://www.thegspotcode.com
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How to Shoot X-Rated Videos Like a Pro

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:10:02 +0000

You’ve convinced your partner to agree to make your own private, erotic video and you guys are now counting the days to your scheduled video shoot. So can you expect that everything will run smoothly then? Not if you don’t know how to properly shoot video.
Nothing can be more annoying than to discuss, agonize, agree, prepare and then shoot an x-rated video only to find out that hardly anything was recorded of your lovemaking or that you can hardly see anything but shadows! So read on and find out how you can shoot your x-rated video like a pro.
What to Do When Shooting an Erotic Video
First of all, know your camcorder like it is your best friend! If you know how to operate it – yes, even in the dark – then you greatly reduce the risk of anything going wrong during your erotic video shoot. Besides, it would be quite annoying and sexually frustrating if you had to fiddle with the darn video camera instead of fiddling with your partner!
Go over the manual and do some practice shoots not only outdoors and during the daytime but also indoors and during nighttime! It’s a great way to check for proper lighting inside the room too.
You should also go online and look for some common video problems and how others troubleshoot them. Knowing first-hand what MIGHT go wrong will help prevent you panicking if something doesn’t go according to plan. Just don’t overdo it. A little troubleshooting know-how is really enough.
Secondly, be prepared with what ‘extras’ you might need. A spare battery or your battery charger/power supply should be in reach. Have duct tape nearby too… not for bondage games but for taping down your videocam’s extension cord so that you guys trip over it (and get caught on tape while doing it!).
Also, don’t forget to have a spare blank tape. You never know how long you’re lovemaking will be and you don’t want to miss out on the ‘big scene’, do you?
Thirdly, use a tripod and get that perfect height. You don’t want the video to be one long footage of your ceiling, right? Use a tripod and test different heights to see which one suits the room and bed height best.
Fourthly, lighting is everything so be sure that you test the lighting in the room where you will make love so that it’s not too bright, too dark, or too grainy on video afterwards.
Fifthly, have you thought of audio? This part depends largely on the quality of your video recorder (i.e., the mic that’s built-in the camcorder). If you’re camcorder doesn’t record audio well and your ‘love sounds’ are important for you guys to hear later on, then think of investing on an external microphone you can plug onto the video recorder.
Of course, if you guys really want to go all out and be daring, you can always hire a professional videographer to shoot your lovemaking. Here are some guidelines.
- Be sure that the person you hire is a professional (and not just a peeping tom). Ask for references, his website and any other detail that will make you more comfortable dealing with the videographer.
- Be sure there’s an iron-clad non-disclosure contract between the two of you. You don’t want your x-rated video mysteriously appearing on the Internet so be sure that you have a contract that prevents this and of course gives you the right to sue!
- Check his equipment when he arrives to be sure there are no ‘back up tapes’ ready to roll on another videocam or something.
- Before he leaves, ensure that he hands over the video and check again that he’s not leaving with any ‘extra copies’.
Deciding to shoot an erotic video is a big step for any couple but really, it’s not that hard. In fact, the hardest part will most probably be deciding on whether to do it or not.
If you decide to shoot the x-rated video yourselves – which is the easiest and safest option – it’s not that hard preparing for it even if you’ve never handled a videocam before. In fact, you can probably ask a relative to teach you how to do it without revealing exactly what you want to tape!
On the other hand, if you don’t want to be bothered and are ok with the idea of hiring an erotic videographer, then just be sure to following the safety precautions we outlined above.
Good luck!

Gabrielle Moore is the co-author of The http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com/female-ejaculation.html” rel=”nofollow”>Female Ejaculation Mastery. It is a step-by-step guide to teach men about female ejaculation. For more information, go to: http://www.femaleorgasmrevealed.com/female-ejaculation.html
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How to Find a Professional Erotic Videographer

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 11:53:59 +0000

As in many cases, the first step is always the hardest to take. And you probably felt the same way when you first decided to record yourselves while lovemaking. However, as you take part in more erotic videos, the idea of bringing in a `professional’ may cross your minds… a professional videographer I mean.
The Benefits of Hiring an Erotic Videographer
A professional erotic videographer can do many things for your x-rated videos. For one, it can enable you and your partner to engage in lovemaking with more abandon because no one has the responsibility of looking after the videocam! No more checking if the tape is still running, no worries that the lighting is off, no shaky videos because you can’t hold the camera steady, and others.
Another reason why hiring an erotic videographer is a good idea is because it increases the `illicit’ factor of your lovemaking, all the more heating up your sex lives.
Here’s a tip: if you can find someone who fits the bill, hire a sexy hunk or woman to do the filming. The thought of such a *hot* person filming you and your partner increases the sexiness of the occasion. Just be sure you and your partner are BOTH ok with this. The idea is to have the sexy and hot videographer inspire you to be more lustful and not to make you guys self-conscious.
4 Ways to Find a Discreet Videographer to Shoot Your X-Rated Videos
Search online. Nowadays, some erotic videographers promote their services online. If you come across such a site, check to see the videographer’s bio. If he or she lives in the same area or state as you guys do, a personal meeting is not a bad idea.
Ask around. If you have friends or even family members whom you know watch adult-rated videos a lot or already engage in their own erotic videos, ask them for referrals! Who knows, some of them may even volunteer to do it. If they do though, be very cautious. Sometimes, hiring a compete stranger or third party – and not someone you’ll see on the next family barbecue – is better.
Here’s a tip: Visit your local adult video shop and ask the salespeople or owner if they can recommend anybody who shoots erotic videos.
Check the Classified Ads. Check the Yellow Pages or the Personals ad section of your Sunday papers to see if there’s someone discreetly offering their video recording services.
Place your own ad! When all else fails, place your own ad asking for someone who has experience shooting erotic videos. You can place your ad online and on newspapers and just see how it goes.
Hiring an Erotic Videographer – Always Proceed with Caution…
Regardless of what avenue you take when looking for an adult-rated videographer, ALWAYS take precautionary steps.
When placing an ad, never reveal your real name, phone number and address, or anything that conveys your true identity. You don’t want all the spooks to start calling and visiting you.
It’s important to meet the videographer in person so that you can be re-assured that he or she is not just some pervert who wants to see people making love but a true professional who does this for a living. Keep in mind that what he/she will be doing is to record a very private moment between you and your partner so it’s important that you trust him or her on the matter of discreetness.
When meeting the videographer, you should have a good feeling not just about his persona but about his expertise. For instance, ask him about lighting, types of videocams, etc. It’s important that you engage only with a true professional in the field.
It might be tricky to ask for `samples’ or `referrals’ as other people obviously do not want their erotic videos seen by you (and vice versa!) but that does not mean that you cannot ask for contracts. Make sure that there are Non-Disclosure Agreements, Copyright notices and all other safety precautions.
If he’s a professional, he’ll be used to this and in fact, he should already have these standard contracts in place. Basically, protect yourself from having the erotic video leaked and that if he ever does so, you can legally stop him.
Having somebody else videotape your most private moments is very thrilling but that does not mean that you should not be very careful with whom you deal with. However, once you find that person, you’ll see your personal x-rated videos reach a whole new level so do give it a try!

Sex Games for the Outdoors

moderator — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:19:10 +0000

Sex games can do wonders for any relationship. They help build trust in one another and help to keep the passion alive for couples. But now that you’ve been engaging in sex games, maybe it’s time to up the heat a bit by doing sex games outside your home.
If you and your partner are up to it, read on and try these sex games meant for outdoor pleasure. Just remember that the basic rules don’t change. Mainly, if one is not comfortable with any of the games, then the other must not pressure him or her to do the sex game. At the same time, read the following sex games with an open mind. You never know what new and exciting thrills they can bring to your relationship until you try them out.
Erotic Sex Games for Outdoor Pleasure
7 Sinful Locations
Get pen and paper; preferably, two different colors of paper. Each of you should have 7 pieces of paper and on these, indicate 7 outdoor locations where you want to make love. For example, you can mention swimming pool, friend’s house, mom and dad’s room, beach, woods, open field, and public restaurant.
Put the 7 locations in a basket or big fishbowl. Every Friday (or any day you guys designate) pick out a new location from the bowl. Of course, it’s assumed that you have somewhat prepared for your set of 7 locations. For example, if one of your sinful locations is the `swimming pool’ and you guys don’t have one, then keep in mind a list of potential other pools you can use so that when this option is pulled out, you guys are ready to go.
HOT Variation Tip #1: To make this game more exciting, have your partner list down her 7 sinful outdoor locations on say white-colored paper, while you list down your 7 sinful lovemaking positions on blue-colored paper. Every Friday, draw out one white and one blue colored paper and bingo! you have one hot sex position to try in a new location!
Auto Erotica
This is a great foreplay sex game that should lead to your lover finding you in a different place in town. If you know that say, every Saturday your partner leaves off to do a weekly chore, be sure to have planted your naughty erotic messages in his/her car the day before.
Hide the clues in the car. About 5 minutes after your lover has been away from home, call him/her and say you have an erotic message for her in the glove compartment or something.
This erotic message should then lead to one message after the other. Your imagination is your only limit here. For example, a friend of mine left messages (in sealed envelopes of course!) at the neighborhood grocer and local bakery for his wife to pickup as she did her weekly grocery shopping to guide her to a motel where he was waiting… naked.
If you plan to do this on a weekday, you can simply leave messages first in his/her car, then in his/her briefcase, and then send an email, etc. The point is to make this a sort of egg hunt game where your partner is led to the prize (read: you) after hints or clues discovered along the way.
HOT Variation Tip #1: Instead of paper clues, you can also just record an audio tape of yourself talking naughty or even dirty to your partner. You then make a CD of this and put it in his/her CD player in the car. In between the naughty talk, guide your lover to your secret location.
The Waiter
You know sometimes you’re so used to your local grocer, baker and even your favorite waiter at your favorite restaurant that you know what they are going to say the minute you walk through the door? Well, for this sex game, you leave the type of lovemaking you will have with your partner to this person.
Here’s a sample scenario, book a table at your favorite local restaurant. Before going to dinner, you and your partner should pre-agree on certain `cause and effect’ scenarios. For example, what’s the first thing that you’re favorite waiter will say when he seats you guys down?
If you say “What would you like to drink?” and the waiter says this, it means you get to feel her under the table.
If your partner says “My, [name of your wife/girlfriend/lover] looks ravishing tonight.” and the waiter says this, it means she gets to handcuff you in bed later.
Make a list of about 5-8 sentences or actions by the waiter and their respective effects on your lovemaking tonight.
Enjoy!

More Bathroom Sex Games for You and Your Partner to Enjoy

moderator — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:57:08 +0000

Not all sex games need to end up in intercourse. Keep in mind that the objective of sex games is to spice up your sexual relationship and if the actual `effect’ takes place immediately afterwards, great. If not, it doesn’t mean that the sex game was not successful. It’s just that the effect takes place later.
Furthermore, no matter how hard we try, sometimes, you (or your partner) are not just in the mood for lovemaking. But that doesn’t mean that you forego sexual playfulness all together! And this is where subtle sex games come into play.
Shower Sex Games to Whet Your Sexual Appetites
The ABCs of Your Anatomy
While relaxing together in the bathtub, why not play the Sexual ABC game? This sex game challenges your knowledge of the human anatomy. The objective of the game is to have your partner work through the alphabet (you’ll be the one dictating the letter and body part!) by gently massaging the various parts of your lover’s body.
For example, for A, you tell your partner to massage your Ankle. For B, tell your partner to massage your Back. If you manage to work from A to Z, then pick your favorite massage and go back to that body part!
Take the Shower Sex Quiz!
At one time, that sexy modern-day goddess known as Angelina Jolie has been quoted as saying that something about being naked in the bathroom makes her free to discuss anything and everything (or something to that effect). So is it the perfect opportunity now to have your lover take a sex quiz while you two are in the shower? Give it a try!
In reality, one or the other always makes fun of sex quizzes but if you know how to read between the lines, there’s always a glimmer of truth somewhere there. So before you get into the bath or shower tonight, browse the Internet for a fun and intriguing sex game that you and your partner can go through. Some fun quizzes can be about erogenous zones, sexual myths, sex positions, or even STD’s!
It’s a great way to know more about your partner and going through a sex positions quiz will help you gauge just how much your partner knows, and/or what he or she is willing to do in that department.
The Sexual Auction
Put together a list of at least 12 romantic or sexual activities. Here’s a sample list: walking together in the park, working out together, oral sex, missionary position, woman on top, sexual massage, foot massage, bathroom sex, doggie style, cooking together, going out on a `date’ (dinner out and watching a movie), and sharing a bath in the tub.
Put the activities you wrote down in a bowl or plastic bucket. Pick out an activity and using either plastic play coins or writing down amounts, make a `secret bid’ for that activity.
For example, she bid $25 for a foot massage, and you bid only $10. This means that she wins the activity from you. The price is then collected at any time.
Sexual Authors
Turn off the lights, burn scented oils and light a dozen or so candles. Play some sensual music and run the bath. (If you don’t have a tub, standing under a warm spay of water is perfectly fine too!)
Now lie back and close your eyes. Start a story, any story about a man and woman hot for each other. Time your story to say 2 minutes. After 2 minutes, your partner must continue the sensual story to whatever turn of events she wants to make. After the 2 minutes, it’s your turn again. I guarantee that you guys will just naturally heat up the story as you go along, each turn making you ant to spell out more and more sexually graphic events.
Here’s a tip: if after some time you guys really get better at your `stories’, record the next time you engage in this sex game and then listen to it either while lovemaking or if your partner is away. It’s a huge turn on!
In addition to sex games not always having to end in lovemaking, note too that not all sex games require a `winner’ and a `loser’, a `prize’ and a `penalty’. Just engage in them wholeheartedly and the game is a reward in itself.

How to Play the Wet Wheel of Fortune

moderator — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 12:06:42 +0000

Have you ever seen the TV show the Wheel of Fortune? Well, this sex game is a sexy and naughty deviation of that TV game show. It’s a great way to engage in various lovemaking positions with your partner. And as such, it takes away a lot of the routine and boredom you guys may be experiencing inside the bedroom.
The Sexy and Wet Wheel of Fortune
These are the things you need to keep in mind to ensure a great Wet Wheel of Fortune experience.
Perfect, romantic bathroom or shower setting.
Prepare the bathtub if you have one; if not, a shower stall is great as well. Dim the lights, play some romantic music, and light some scented candles. This sex game may take a while so brining in some drinks (wine, champagne) and some food items (cheese, crackers, grapes) is not a bad idea.
Get in the right mood and frame of mind.
Like any sex game, it really won’t work if you just, you know, get on with it. Remember that the brain in the biggest sex muscle of all so you need to stimulate that first. So start with a relaxing shower together or give your partner a sensual bath massage. Just when your lover is a bit primed, engage in some heavy foreplay. This is necessary because the actual Sex Wheel of Fortune is based more on sexual positions.
The Wet Wheel of Fortune board!
This type of sex game paraphernalia can be bought in sex games. They come complete with suction cups too so you can easily attach them against the wall or on the glass of your shower stall. (Of course, you can also create your own.)
When buying one try to find that has two wheels on it; one that tells time (30 seconds, 3 minutes, 10 minutes, etc.) and one that indicates a photo of the sex position. Wherever the wheel stops, you guys must do whatever the image indicates for the time period the second wheel says!
Admittedly, there are some limitations to what sex positions a couple can engage in inside a shower stall or inside a bathtub so here’s a quick rundown for you.
- Woman on top. That’s right. Just lie down in the rub and let the water embrace you as she gets on top and does her thing.
Standing doggy style. This is just the classic `from behind’ move but in this scenario, both of you are standing up. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
- Bent doggy style. This is just the classic `from behind’ move but in this scenario, you’re standing up while she bends and braces herself against the bathroom wall. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
- Hanging lotus. In this lovemaking position, you guys are face-to-face. You’re standing up while her arms embrace your neck, and her legs wrap around your torso. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must again!) And yes, you need stamina for this move!
On the counter. In this lovemaking position, you move out of the bathtub and/or shower stall and place her, sitting, on top of the bathroom counter. You get the added bonus of making love to her while watching yourself in the bathroom mirror!
In this sex game there are no losers only sexual pleasures!
How to Make the Wet Wheel of Fortune More Exciting
As if this sex game is not hot enough, there are still some things you can add or incorporate to tweak this sex game more to your liking. Here are some ideas.
Don’t just have images of lovemaking positions; add foreplay and/or genitalia images as well. For instance, if the arrow on the wheel lands on say, his genitalia, and on the time 30 seconds, then she gets to do whatever she wants to do on that body part (and vice versa of course).
If, for some reason, one is not able to carry out the activity for the said amount of time, there is a penalty. This penalty can be in the form of missing a turn to spin the wheel to being `limited’ in one way or the other. For example, one of his or her writs can be handcuffed to something to limit movement. A blindfold can also be used, inhibiting sight as well as making the search for the `target’ much more exciting!

Bathroom / Shower Sex Games – Rules of Engagement

moderator — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 06:11:10 +0000

Undoubtedly one of the best places to indulge in sex games is in the bathroom. Jut think about it: the scintillating smell of the bath soap, the sexy suds, the cascading water over your bodies… sexy! However, before you engage in sex games under the shower or in the bathroom, you should never forget certain `rules of engagement’.
Sex games rules are very important especially if you guys are just starting out to include sex games in your relationship. It is quite understandable that one of you (or both) is not that comfortable yet with sex games for many reasons, such as fear of embarrassing yourself, fear of being pressured into doing something that you really don’t want to do, fear of physically (and thus, emotionally) hurting your lover and vice versa, and many others.
To prevent these problems, it is imperative that you and your lover establish certain ground rules when it comes to bathroom or shower sex games. Doing so has the following benefits:
You’re forced to open up and discuss things that may or may not be bothering you regarding bathroom sex games.
You establish certain thresholds, which in turn make you more comfortable in engaging in shower sex games in the first place.
You establish deeper trust in your relationship.
Basic Sex Game Rules
When you pre-agree on certain things regarding sex games, you’ll be more comfortable engaging in them and thus enjoy them more! Following is a quick rundown of common sex game rules.
Agree to both have an open mind.
Shower and bathroom sex games bring certain `dangers’ to mind in many couples: slipping on the tub, banging your head against the wall, slipping and breaking your arm, etc. HOWEVER, why focus on the negative, right?
When you bring sexual playfulness into your relationship, it’s important to establish right at the start to keep and open mind. Do not say no to something for fear of the unknown. Instead, give it a try! Who knows, you might end up liking it way more than you ever thought.
Agree to surprises.
One of the most wonderful aspects of sex games is the surprise factor. As such, don’t be so hung up on `needing’ to know what’s going to happen. Just relax and try it. Think of it this way: the experience will reveal to you just how far your lover will go when it’s up to him/her to surprise you with a sex game.
On the other hand, if you’re the one surprising your lover, be responsible. For instance, you know that things can get very wet and wild inside the bathroom during a sex game so make sure rubber mats, rubber bathtub pillows, towels and maybe even a chair (to aid in getting in and out of the bathtub properly) is there to ensure safety at all times.
Agree to have a STOP word.
Not everybody has the same level of sexual playfulness inside or outside the bedroom. As such, it’s important that you guys establish a STOP word that you can use during sex games to indicate that the game has reached a certain personal threshold.
When this STOP word is used, the other must fully respect the other’s wishes and stop (or downplay) the sex game. This word must be treated seriously. If you still continue despite your lover saying the STOP word then trust in your relationship takes a serious downturn.
Agree to how much `information’ leaves the bathroom.
Let’s admit it. It’s nice to be known as the `stud’ who engages in sex games and wild lovemaking with his partner. Unfortunately, your lover may not agree to this information being leaked to all your friends. But then again he/she may be ok with it! You’ll never know until you discuss it and agree to discuss or not discuss your wet and wild activities with others.
Some couples also like to engage in a little erotic video recording while doing their sex games. If you guys try this out, pre-agree on where to keep the video and if you guys should keep this just between the two of you or if you’re ok if it’s seen by others. Also, on the remote chance that you guys ever breakup, discuss now what’s going to happen to that video. Unless of course, you both want to be Internet stars.
Bath and shower sex games are truly great ways to spice up a relationship. Talk about it with your lover and discuss and pre-agree on the items above. These will ensure that you engage in sex games truly comfortable with one another.

Bathroom Sex Games Using Toys

moderator — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 12:53:21 +0000

Bathroom or shower sex games can be a great way to get to know each other’s bodies better. And the best way to do this is to also include sex toys, the waterproof kind of course.
For such a long time, the use of sex toys had tinge of taboo about them. Fortunately, that’s slowly but surely changing now. In fact, many couples swear that using sex toys has drastically improved their relationship. How? Well, consider the following.
It’s a known fact that most female partners never reach an orgasm during intercourse. But what’s worse is that most women don’t even mind it! This is because they themselves do not know how to turn themselves sexually on. Yes, most women are also not in tune at how to bring themselves sexual pleasure so when you think about it, it’s kind of unfair to expect men to instinctively know how to bring us to a climax, isn’t it?
Even if some women do have an idea on to how sexually arouse themselves, discussing it with their partners is another thing altogether. Issues of awkwardness, insecurity, and others arise.
Sometimes, it’s men who are not comfortable discussing these things. For them, the fact that they need `instructions’ on how to please a woman can be a turn-off in itself. (Not to mention a blow to their ego.)
So, the best way to handle this is create a scenario where both of you are comfortable. And here is where a bathroom sex game involving waterproof sex toys help!
Shower Sex Games and Toys
First of all, keep in mind that it’s always important to create the right mood. So take the time to ensure your bathroom or shower room is as sexy and romantic as you can make it. Dim the lights and turn on some candles; burn some scented oil; put on some relaxing music, and so on.
Once you guys are in the shower, start with a relaxing massage and see the stress of the day slip off of your bodies. Now, start `cleansing’ each other using bath soap and a gentle sponge. I guarantee that all this rubbing, squeezing and cleansing is going to turn you on!
Now, ask your partner to lie down if you have a tub or sit on the edge of it. (If you don’t have a bathtub, that’s fine; you can just as easily kneel in front of her.) Whip out the waterproof sex toy and start pleasuring your woman.
As you use the sex toy, encourage her to tell you how she’s feeling, what she likes, what she doesn’t like. And here’s one extremely important tip from all women to you: if she looks turned on, please do not stop what you’re doing or switch moves. Keep on doing what you’re doing and you’ll be rewarded with a climax from her.
By the time you guys are finished; this sex game would have taught you things about how to pleasure your woman more than ever. But what about your pleasure, you ask? No worries, there are tons of waterproof sex toys for men too!
Once you guys are more comfortable with the use of sex toys, you can start varying the sex game a bit more. Here’s a quick rundown of possible ideas.
Take turns. For instance, today, it’s all about her; next time, it will be all about you.
Make the objective of the sex game the “fastest” way you can make each other climax.
Make the objective of the sex game the “slowest” way you can make each other climax.
Use a timer and alternate toys. Set it to say 60 seconds and use a sex toy on her. The next 60 seconds means it’s your turn to receive some waterproof sexual toy treatment. The winner is the one who lasts longest.
Use a timer and alternate `equipment’. Set the timer to say 60 seconds and use a sex toy on her. The next 60 seconds means you get to use your own `all-natural’ equipment on her!
Keep in mind that sex toys are just aids to knowing each other’s bodies better and to bring a certain new element into an otherwise routine sexual relationship. They’re not meant to replace each other as the means to reach a climax. So do go ahead and use them; realizing that at the end of the day, these sex games and sex toys are all only meant to improve your sexual relationship and strengthen your physical and emotional bonds.

What is Tantric Sex?

moderator — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 18:02:16 +0000

Tantric sex has many names in today’s culture: spiritual sex, sacred sexuality, spiritual union, and others. However, a common denominator in all these names is that they all relate to some level of spirituality.
Tantric sex is indeed related to your spiritual well-being because even though you are engaging in the sexual act, the purpose is not really to reach orgasm but to unite with your lover in ALL possible aspects. To put it simply, tantra lovemaking is not about intercourse per se, it’s about uniting or fusing together your bodies, and in the process connect with your partner in mind, body and spirit.
Tantric Sex History
Tantric sex has its roots in India some 4,000 years ago, where it was viewed as – what else – a spiritual tradition. It started to be known in the West in the early 1800s but it never really had a tremendously huge following.
However, in the late 1960s, a rebirth of the practice was reaching new heights in India and this led to its consequent re-emergence in Western culture. Today, tantric sex awakening is reaching an all-time high because you now also have such high profile couples advocating the benefits of tantric sex. For instance, when Sting mentioned on Oprah that he and his wife Trudie engage in tantric sex, which enable them to experience ‘five or six or seven hours of lovemaking’, the whole world wanted to find out what tantric sex is all about!
As mentioned, tantric sex is not just about ’sex’, it involves many things: tantric breathing, tantric sexual massage, creating a scared tantric place, meditation, prolonging sexual intercourse, and even tantric after play. All of these have a special purpose in tantric lovemaking.
Tantric Sex vs. ‘Normal’ Sex
The main difference between tantric sex and lovemaking as we commonly view it today is this: reaching an orgasm. With regular sex, you have a goal – to reach your climax and that’s it. However, since men and women have different needs, more often than not, one of them (mostly women) do NOT reach their sexual goal (climaxing) and so there is a lot of pent up sexual frustration in today’s relationships. It is thus no wonder that a lot of relationships have underlying stresses.
Consider these common scenarios.
- He reaches his orgasm but she never does, resulting in sexual frustration for her.
- He’s a very caring guy and wants her to experience sexual pleasure but it takes her a long time to ‘come’ and so it’s building up performance anxiety and sexual frustration for him.
In contrast, Tantric sex is not about reaching an orgasm. It’s about union. The main purpose is to connect with your lover in all aspects: heart, mind, body and soul. Does this mean you don’t reach an orgasm with Tantric lovemaking? Of course not!
On the contrary, Tantric sex practitioners swear that they have never had more body-rocking and mind-blowing orgasms before they tuned into to Tantra sex. So don’t worry; you’re in for A LOT of sexual pleasure with this form of spirituality.
Getting Started with Tantric Sex
The best way to get started with Tantric sex is to start slowly. Begin by viewing your sex partner in a different light. Try to see her as a goddess, a sexual playmate that you hold in the highest regard, and that making love to her is not just about physical pleasure in your groin area but about ecstasy in all aspects of your being.
Try this exercise: get a piece of paper and list down all the beautiful qualities or everything you like about your woman. Some men like to list down everything, even ‘great cook!’ or ‘best woman driver I know’ because, according to them, it helps them appreciate her more. Others, however, prefer to just list down sexually-related aspects such as ‘I love how her hair sways when she’s on top of me’, or ’she has the best looking ass I know’. Write down whatever aspect you feel like listing that will make you see her in a whole new light. Whatever works for you!
After creating your list, look over it and then close your eyes and revel in each of these qualities. Now, picture making love to her. Don’t you see her now more than just someone to reach an orgasm with?
Lastly, people who engage in Tantric sex love it because ‘things just keep on getting better’. Tantric lovemaking believes in this doctrine: practice, practice, practice! Yet at the same time, Tantric sex provides immediate improvements in your sex and spiritual life. So go try it. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain.